If Your Child Is Sitting Like This, Here’s Why You Need to Stop Them Now

My daughter’s just over a year old, so there’s really not much she’s doing “wrong” yet. (Trust me, like all of us, she’ll get there.) If she smacks our family pet, it’s less hostility and more that she doesn’t have full control of her arms. If she throws her food, it’s not an act of insubordination but just her method of communicating that she’s done eating. So, when a family member alerted me to something my child was doing that she needed to stop at once, I was taken aback. Especially because, at that particular moment, she wasn’t stealing her playmate’s toys or eating an expensive coaster as she’s sometimes known to do. She was just sitting there.

Turns out, the way she was sitting — with each leg splayed at her side, knees in front and feet behind, to form a “W” shape — was all kinds of bad.

According to a vast majority of physical therapists, there are several key reasons why:

W-sitting limits core strength because it gives kids a wider base of support. Because they don’t have to engage their abdominal or back muscles in this position, kids often prefer it to more challenging, tiring positions, like with legs in front, at their sides, or crisscrossed.
W-sitting causes muscle tightness, particularly in the legs and hips but also knees and ankles.
W-sitting aggravates neurological issues such as low muscle tone, which means when kids aren’t actively using their muscles, those muscles are floppier and softer and have a harder time holding their bodies upright.
What this all means, most therapists agree, is that prolonged W-sitting throughout childhood can lead to a delayed development in gross motor skills like coordination and balance. For those parents hoping to raise a star athlete, this position’s effect on postural muscles can also be cause for concern.

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Why do some kids sit like this? It’s by far the steadiest way for children of all ages to sit, and aside from that innate tendency to achieve the most stability, it’s also been attributed to time spent in infant carrier devices, like swings, bouncy seats, and car seats.

Seeing as my daughter had graduated from infancy, I was immediately concerned that the damage was already done. I had tried my best to limit her time in her baby swing and the oversize, overpriced ExerSaucer that I had bought under the assumption it was actually good for a baby’s development, but here she was, W-sitting at every turn. I had never noticed it until now.

What can be done? Well, the somewhat alarmist recommendation is to get them to stop doing it immediately — that, whenever you see your child W-sitting, you either physically move their legs into a suitable position (if they’re too young to understand) or tell them to do so.

So, with a watchful eye, I adjusted her legs every time she sat incorrectly, and my husband and I instructed our child’s caretakers to do the same. Occasionally I’d correct her, and it’d be fine, but plenty of times, adjusting one of her legs would make her cry and most times, doing so annoyed her to the point that she was no longer interested in sitting and scooted off to go do something else.

She wasn’t the only one getting fed up, and it had only been a week. I dug a little deeper and found that a few pediatric occupational therapists out there don’t view this seated position as a problem necessarily. There’s not much evidence that shows causation. That is, yes, children who W-sit often have orthopedic issues and muscle tightness. But W-sitting hasn’t been proven to be the cause of those issues, which makes one wonder: could tight hamstrings and hip dysplasia lead to W-sitting, not the other way around?

One such unconvinced therapist, Rachel Coley, happens to be the mother to a W-sitter and maintains it’s perfectly normal for kids to sit this way.

She notes that it’s a simple sign of flexibility and aids in fine motor control because you need to assume the most stable seated position possible when engaging in tasks that require “coordinated, controlled movements of the hands and fingers.” Coley also noted that, for babies in particular, W-sitting provides a convenient, “natural transition” from crawling or kneeling to sitting.

However, based on how strongly most certified therapists feel about W-sitting, I’m not taking any chances. I’m going to keep my eye on it, and I’ll encourage other parents who were unaware of this issue to do the same, especially if they have older kids showing some of the negative side effects. But, if my child is having the time of her life smacking two wooden blocks together, I’m not going to spoil the fun if she happens to be W-sitting.

8 Worst Habits of Unhappy People and How to Break Them

Everyone wants and deserves to be happy, but not everyone understands what happiness is. Happiness lies in the heart and it always comes from the inside, not the outside. Unfortunately, many people believe money brings happiness and they are trying to earn more money in order to be happy.

This actually is one of the biggest mistakes unhappy people make. I know it’s hard to believe but a lot of wealthy people are unhappy because happy people have good habits that improve their lives and their aim is not to make a lot of money, their aim is to live a happy and fulfilled life.

Apart from money, unhappy people have a few other bad habits that they need to break to live a happy life. You might say that there are times when it’s impossible to smile and enjoy life. Yes, I agree. Everyone experiences unhappy times every now and then, but a large part of unhappiness comes from our own behavior, thinking, and habits.

Just like Elbert Hubbard once said, “Happiness is a habit – cultivate it.” Stop making any excuses on why things are not working out for you and why you are unhappy – you are the only person who is in charge of your own happiness. Read on to discover 8 worst habits of unhappy people and a few effective tips on how to break them.

1. Dwelling on the past and dreaming about the future too much
Dwelling on the past and reliving all your failures, painful memories and conflicts can hold you back from moving on with life. Dreaming too much about the future is never a good thing too. We often imagine how things could go wrong in our relationships, at work or with our health and it builds into appalling scenarios playing over and over in the head.

This is an unhealthy habit that we should break no matter how hard it is. Dwelling on the past and dreaming about the future can lead to missing out on plenty of amazing experiences. Start living in the present if you want to be happy.

How to break this bad habit:

We all think about the future or the past on occasion, and it’s not a bad habit unless you dwell on it too much. It’s important to learn from your past and plan for tomorrow or next year, but make sure you spend more of your time in the present. Focus on your current activity and think of the problems you have now.

Stop worrying about tomorrow – it’s going to happen whether you worry about it or not. Forgive all past mistakes, failures, and hurts, they won’t help you in the future. Next time you dwell on your past or dream about the future, sit still, take a few deep breaths, and take in what is all around you with all your senses for a while.

I also like to take a short walk and enjoy nature. It reminds me that I live in the present moment. Don’t let yourself dwell on the unhappy past, live your life now and meet any challenge with a smile.

2. Overcomplicating things
Overcomplicating life is becoming a habit these days. But I think life is too complicated to make it more complicated. While life can create unhappiness, it’s often created by us. Stop overcomplicating things and try to develop new habits that will help to make your life simpler. Life isn’t easy, but it doesn’t have to be as challenging as most of us make it.

How to break this bad habit:

Avoid multitasking and do one thing at a time during your day. Make a small to-do list with 3-4 important things and write down your most important goals on a whiteboard that you’ll see daily. This will help you to accomplish the most important tasks on time and reach your goals faster.

Another thing to do to break the habit of overcomplicating life is to get rid of the things you don’t need anymore – give them away or throw them away. Having too much stuff means throwing away your precious time and it can prevent you from doing more useful things.

People who have a habit of overcomplicating life have many problems in the relationships. That’s because they spend too much time thinking about the past or the future and creating new problems. The best way to reduce misunderstandings and conflicts in any relationship is to communicate and ask questions. Don’t create problems that don’t even exist and don’t waste your time and energy being upset about them.

If you have a super busy schedule and it seems impossible to simplify your life, I’ve got some recommendations for you. First of all, try to spend less energy and time on your email inbox – check it once a day and write shorter emails. Make a short to-do list every day and make sure you set realistic goals.

It’s easy to get stressed out when you have a busy schedule and plenty of things to do. Take a few short breaks throughout the day and make sure you eat healthy. Also, make time to exercise (I recommend you to work out in the morning) since it helps reduce and manage stress levels. It might be a bit overwhelming at first, but good time management is a sure way to simplify life.

3. Striving for perfection
Happiness has nothing to do with making everything perfect. There’s nothing perfect in the world so striving for perfection is just a waste of time and energy. I learned this lesson a few years ago. I was trying to make everything perfect but no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t be perfect all the time. I realized I had to break this habit when I started to feel miserable and completely unhappy.

Striving for perfection is harming your mind and it usually leads to low self-esteem, constant self-criticism and feeling that you’re not good enough, even if you have great results. If you are a chronic perfectionist you should realize it and break this habit because it may be the main reason why you are unhappy. Here are a few effective ways to overcome perfectionism.

4. Focusing on the negative things in life
Seeing only the negative side of every situation and dwelling on it is a sure way to be unhappy in life. There’s always a positive side of every situation, even the worst one, and it’s always possible to turn a negative situation into a positive one. Both happy and unhappy people have problems. The difference is the way they solve those problems.

How to break this bad habit:

I can tell you from my experience that it’s hard to break this habit and you will need a lot of patience. If you are a chronic perfectionist, you should break this habit first. Once you kick that habit, start breaking the habit of focusing on the negative things in life. Learn to see both the negative and the positive sides of any situation you are in and accept things as they are.

If you can change something, do it. If you can’t, let go mentally and emotionally of what is negative and don’t dwell on it. Whining about the negative detail is just a waste of time. Every time I’m in a difficult situation, I always think of the ways to turn a negative into a positive because only then I can think clearly how to solve the problem.

5. Being dragged down by negative voices
It actually goes hand in hand with focusing on the negative things in life, so if you have this habit, you need to break it today. Who you socialize with, what you watch, read and listen to have a huge impact on how you think and feel. You will never be happy if you live in a sea of negative voices, which tell you that life will always be filled with limits and it will be unsafe and unhappy.

In order to break this bad habit, you need to replace those negative voices with positive ones. Avoid negative people and surround yourself with positive people who make you smile and happy. Don’t start your day with watching the morning news or reading the paper. Instead, listen to the inspiring music or read some inspiring books.

6. Comparing yourself to others
Comparing yourself to others is one of the worst habits that most people have these days. We often compare jobs, houses, cars, relationships, money, clothes and many other things. We get upset about someone else’s success and many of us end up living someone else’s life. Comparing what you have in life to what other people have is a sure way to make yourself unhappy.

Have you ever tried to compare yourself to yourself? Sounds strange, right? But it’s actually the key to success and a happy life. See what you’ve achieved, how much you’ve grown, and what you’ve made to reach your goals. You can even have a special journal where you write down your goals and your progress in reaching them.

This way, you won’t have time to think of other people and their success. You will learn to love and appreciate yourself and what you have in life. Check out the article How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People that will help you to overcome the habit of comparing yourself to others and will help you live a happier life.

7. Limiting life
If you hold yourself back and you don’t live your life to the fullest because you’re afraid what others may say or think if you do something new or different, you need to break a habit of limiting your life. There’s nothing wrong with trying new things and everyone is unique in their own way.

Unhappy people think that they know how others see them and what think about them. Stop caring about what other people think and start living your own life and doing things you like. Never take criticism as a personal attack and let go of negativity. In fact, other people don’t care about what you say and do.

They have their own problems and fears and they worry about their own lives. Instead of thinking about your flaws and fearing what everyone thinks of you, focus on the people around you. Be kind and polite. Help people in need and it will help you boost your self-esteem and improve yourself.

8. Focusing too much on money
While it’s okay to focus on making money, saving and buying a lot of expensive things, if you do it all the time, it can make you miserable. Unfortunately, most of us have this bad habit without realizing it. We believe money can do everything and we stop being thankful for what we have in life. Both rich people and poor people can be happy and unhappy.

I know a couple of rich people who have everything they want, but they don’t have one of the most important things in life – happiness. I also have a few friends who don’t make a lot of money, but they are always positive and they really enjoy their happy life. Zig Ziglar once said, “Money won’t make you happy, but everybody wants to find out for themselves.”

It’s just an illusion that money will bring you happiness. Stop focusing too much on the money. Embrace all your daily blessings and be thankful for everything you have in life.

It’s not difficult to be happy, you just need to want it. Try to break these worst habits no matter how hard it will be. But make sure you really overcome your bad habits, because sometimes people don’t break their bad habits, they simply replace them with the new ones.

Cultivate your happiness and live your life to the fullest and without regrets. “Remember that happiness is a way of travel, not a destination.” – Roy Goodman. Do you have any bad habits of unhappy people?

10 Dos and Don’ts of Wearing Red Lipstick

Lipstick is an essential part of almost every woman’s daily makeup routine. However, many women shy away from the red tones they find in the cosmetic aisle. Fortunately, you can pull off those brave shades with a little lipstick know-how. Here are ten dos and don’ts of wearing red lipstick:

1. Wear darker foundation
If you’re going to go bold with your lip color, you’ve got to have a complementary backdrop for your face. For those with lighter skin tones, it’s a good idea to choose foundations that will provide darker, olive bases. Red lips can be too much of a contrast against pale skin. The darker your lips are, the darker your foundation should be.

2. Don’t be afraid to blend different colors
Do you like the look of red lipstick, but think it might be too loud for you? There’s an easy solution: customize your shade. Simply take a lighter hue like coral or mauve and blend it with that rose or burgundy you’ve been eyeing. The result will be a more muted tone that nearly anyone will be comfortable wearing.

3. Use it for the right occasion
While everyone loves red, luscious lips, the look isn’t appropriate for every social situation. Some of the deeper shades can be a little jarring to people you run into at the gym or the kids’ soccer game. Likewise, you want everyone to be listening to your business proposal at that morning office meeting, not staring at your lips. Only paint your kisser red when you know you’re dealing with a fun, playful atmosphere, such as a night out with the girls. Then, you’ll be one step ahead in painting the town red!

4. Don’t overdo it
If you want to avoid all the lipstick smudges and stains, you can start by only applying a light coating to your lips. This is especially important for red lipstick since it’s easier to spot on teeth and collars. Rolling once or twice around your lips should be sufficient to achieve the desired effect. For even more control of your coverage, spread the lipstick using a lip brush. Just remember that a little dab will do you.

5. Use a lip liner
Using lipstick without a liner can lead to unnecessary smudging and streaking, especially when you’re wearing a red tone. To make sure that lipstick stays where it should, apply a matching liner around the rim of your lips. Once your lips are lined, fill in with your favorite tube of red. Now your lipstick will last just as long as your night out!

6. Don’t go dark if you have thin lips
If your lips are on the thinner side, you might want to avoid deeper tones of red. The thing is, dark colors will make your lips appear smaller. Pick a lighter hue for a plumper look.

7. Pair it with a bold outfit
When you’re putting on lipstick, it’s important to think about what you’ll be wearing. Your wardrobe choice should dictate the shade you select. You never want to pair dark red with a frilly, girly ensemble. A sweet shade of pink would be much more suited to that look. On the other hand, your little black dress or the latest runway fashion would each be the perfect pairing for that candy apple you’ve been meaning to try. You can wear red lipstick with conviction when you know you’ve got edgy clothes to match.

8. Don’t wear too much jewelry around your face
Red lips can act as much like accessories as diamond necklaces or pairs of hoop earrings. In fact, you should treat your lips like jewelry. Less is more. Opt for a small choker and some simple studs so your ruby reds will take center stage.

9. Find the right lipstick for you
Deciding on a lipstick is a very personal experience. You may know that you’d like one that’s red, but the rest of your decisions should be based on your personal taste. You should take the time to try out different brands, shades and finishes until you find the one that fits your unique style. From bright to deep and glossy to matte, you’re sure to find one that works for you.

10. Don’t be afraid
Wearing red lipstick is about more than just the color; it’s about the attitude. Be confident! Sometimes you just have to go for it. Red lipstick may not be for everyone, but you’ll never know if it’s right for you if you don’t try it out. Take the risk and you may be glad you did. After all, you can’t have a big payoff if you don’t gamble a little!

When it comes to makeup, every woman’s routine should start with a great tube of lipstick. Why not give red a shot? Whether you choose a tone that’s light or dark, everyone will be jealous of your daring look. Going red may make all your friends green with envy!

16 Simple Ways to Improve Your Body Language

There’s no certain way to use your body language. Depending on who you’re talking to and the setting, what you do and say might be interpreted in different ways. When talking to your boss, you will want to use your body language differently than when talking to your coworkers or friends. A slight changes in your body language can have a great impact on the people around you. But before starting changing your body language, you have to know your body language. Pay close attention to how you stand, how you sit, and how you use you hands and legs when talking to someone. One of the best ways to know your body language is to practice in front of a mirror. While it seems a bit ridiculous, it really helps. After all, no one is watching you. You will see how you look to others and how you use your body language.

You can also visualize how you’d sit and stand to feel relaxed and confident, or visualize how you’d communicate with someone. Watch your coworkers, friends, celebs, role models and other people you think have great body language and communicating skills. Watch what they do and what you don’t. However, don’t compare yourself to others. Just because they have a better body language doesn’t mean they are better than you. You just need some time to develop your own body language.

At first, you might feel like you’re faking someone and something, but ‘fake it til you make it’ can actually help you to improve your body language and communication skills. Don’t be afraid to play around a little, practice a lot and monitor yourself to find your comfortable balance. This is the key to success!

1. Eye contact
Make eye contact, but make sure you don’t stare. If you’re talking to a few people, give everyone some eye contact to make a better connection and ensure everyone is listening to you. If you don’t make eye contact, you might seem insecure, inattentive and confused. But, don’t give too much eye contact since people might think you are creepy. If you are shy, making eye contact will be a little tricky in the beginning, but when you will get used to it, it will feel much easier.

2. Arms, shoulders and legs
Never cross your arms and legs as it indicates that you are feeling defensive or guarded. You should also pay attention to your shoulders. When you feel nervous, you may notice that your shoulders are tight and tense. Try to relax your shoulders by shaking them a bit and moving them back and down slightly.

3. Head
When you want to feel confident or when you want to be taken seriously, keep your head level both vertically and horizontally. When you want to be friendly, nod once in a while to show that you are listening. Just don’t overdo it. You don’t want to nod every minute.

4. Mouth
Your mouth movements give away clues about you, too, and not only when you’re speaking. We purse the lips and twist them to one side when we are thinking or when we hold back some angry comments we don’t want to reveal. People might notice it and even though they won’t say anything, they’ll get a feeling that you don’t want to communicate with them.

5. Sit up straight
Learn to sit up straight but in a more comfortable and relaxed way. If you want to show that you are sincerely interested in what the person is talking about, lean toward them, but not too much. Lean back a bit to show that you are relaxed and confident in yourself. But don’t lean back too much because it can make you look distant and arrogant.

6. Take up some space
Feel free to take up some space when talking to someone. When you sit or stand with your legs slightly apart, it shows that you are self-confident and you feel comfortable around other people.

7. Smile and laugh
Stop taking yourself so seriously. Just relax. When someone says something funny, smile or even laugh. If you are a positive person, people will be more inclined to listen to you and be around you. However, don’t be the only person who laugh at your jokes, or it will make you appear nervous. When you’re introduced to someone, smile but don’t fake your smile. People may notice that your smile is fake.

8. Don’t fidget
Make sure you avoid doing fidgety movements and nervous ticks like tapping your fingers against the table or shaking your leg. When you try to get something across, fidgeting can distract others. Slow down, take a few deep breaths and relax. This is one of the most important steps to improving your body language.

9. Don’t touch your face
To tell the truth, touching the face (especially nose) when speaking with someone is one of my worst habits that I’m trying to break. It’s hard to break but I know I have to do it in order to improve my body language. Touching your face makes you seem nervous and it’s distracting to the people in the conversation.

10. Use your hands
Instead of scratching your face and fidgeting with your hands, learn to use them more confidently during a conversation. You can use your hands to describe something or explain your ideas. However, make sure you don’t use your hands too much, or it will be annoying and distracting.

11. Slow down
This actually goes for a lot of things. If you’ve got used to walking fast, try walking a bit slower. This will make you appear more relaxed and confident. If someone addresses you, turn your neck a little more slowly. When speaking to someone, don’t speak too fast. The thing is, speaking too fast indicates a lack of confidence and can increase the chances you will be misunderstood.

12. Keep your whole spine straight
Many of us stand and sit with a straight back in a great posture. But, many of us don’t understand that the spine ends in the back of the head, so we often crane the neck forward. Keep your entire spine straight to have a better posture and look more beautiful and confident.

13. Lower your drink
Keeping a drink close to your chest is a sure sign of insecurity. Don’t hold anything in front of your chest as it will make you seem distant and guarded. So lower your drink and hold it about belly button level a slightly out. This will make you look more confident.

14. Don’t stand too close or too far away
If you want to give off the right signals, pay close attention to the distance from others. If you stand or sit too close to the person when speaking, you might be marked as ‘in your face’ or ‘pushy.’ If you stand too far away, you might be marked as ‘offish.’ Observe how close all the other people are to one another and if you notice that someone back away when you move closer to them, pull back a little. Every person has their own personal space, which we should never invade.

15. Mirror
If you are trying to improve your body language, mirroring can help you. Sometimes when we get along with someone, we begin to mirror one another unconsciously. If your interlocutor leans forward, you might also lean forward. Or, if they hold their hands on their thighs, do the same. Just don’t overdo it. You don’t want to mirror each change in body language.

16. Keep a positive attitude
When you feel positive and confident, it comes through in your body language. That’s why it’s so important to keep a positive and relaxed attitude when speaking to someone. In fact, when it comes to body language and communication skills, your attitude can make a huge difference.

It may take a lot of time and patience to change your body language but it’s well worth it in the end. One of the most difficult things to change is to keep you head up if you’ve got used to looking at your feet. Eye contact is highly important in any situation. Work on these body language bits daily and you will definitely better your body language. If you don’t manage to change something, don’t just give up. You will reach your goal and improve your body language no matter how hard it will be and no matter what others will say. Remember, I believe in you. Are you going to use these ways to change your body language?

9 Things You Shouldn’t Do When You Live Alone

When people live alone they are free to do whatever they wish and nobody can restrict them. There are also lots of people who live alone due to different circumstances. For example, they are single because they can’t find their love or they have divorced. Freedom is something that we all need from time to time. So, it can be a nice idea to move out and live apart from others. I think it is really good for young people who have just graduated from the university and want to start a new independent life without parents. However, before taking this decision you should consider certain bad habits that may spoil your life. Here is the list of some bad things which you have to avoid by all means.

1. Not washing your dirty dishes
Sure, it doesn’t mean that all people who live alone don’t wash their dirty dishes regularly. First of all, it depends on your personality. But if you don’t share your apartment with anyone else, you’ll be relaxed and let your dirty dishes pile up. This is one of the worst habits you should be aware of. If your dishes stay dirty for one day or even more, it will be difficult to clean them and you’ll have a big amount of work to do. That’s why you’d better wash up right after eating. It will be a great shame when your friends come to you and see dirty dishes in your kitchen.

2. Eating or drinking directly from the container
Those who live alone usually tend to eat various foods directly from the container and they almost never use glasses to drink beverages like wine or beer. To my mind you’ll look disgusting when drinking straight from the bottle. Try to get rid of this negative habit in order to look more attractive in the company of others. I’m sure you’ll get more pleasure from your food when eating it from your favorite plate.

3. Leaving up decorations
Most of us have a terrible habit to leave up decorations after Christmas, Valentine’s Day, Birthday Parties and other holidays. Definitely, we like that festive atmosphere in our home and bright decorations are the only way to prolong those happy moments. But at the same time it may be annoying for everyone who visits you. Your guests will not understand you if they see your Christmas decorations a few months after the holiday. Thus, you ought to take down all decorations when the festivity is over, otherwise you will never do this.

4. Eating too much food
If you live alone, you will constantly lack communication with other people and you can even be bored sometimes. In this case watching television and eating food are the easiest way to entertain yourself and feel a bit happier. Every time you have a desire to talk to someone you go to your kitchen and eat tasty foods which are generally high in calories. For many people this is a substitution of live communication. We rarely think that this satisfaction is dangerous to us and very often it leads to overweight.

5. Not changing your bed sheets regularly
Whether you live with your family or alone, you must not forget to change your bed sheets. There aren’t any excuses for you, except you are ill or injured. Make it a rule to change your bedclothes once a week. Moreover, it would be good if you wash your pillowcases more frequently as they get dirty very quickly.

6. Not cleaning your kitchen and bathroom
The places in your home such as kitchen and bathroom are used every day, and consequently, they need to be cleaned regularly. Sure, it won’t be pleasant for you to cook your dinner in the kitchen where everything is covered with mold or take shower in a messy bathroom. No matter how busy you are, you should always find time for cleaning these special rooms in your flat.

7. Being too lazy
Undoubtedly, you’ll have a great temptation to sleep more in the morning, especially on weekend. There are some days when you want to pamper yourself, though you should bear in mind that sleeping too much is the first step to your laziness. You can do plenty of interesting activities instead of having a nap. Life is so colorful and exciting that you can’t waste your time for sleeping.

8. Being a hermit
Once you have moved out, you will highly appreciate your own space and freedom. From the first days of your independent life you will be happy to stay at home at every possible opportunity and relish your solitude. As a rule people who spend much time at home give preference to watching TV or surfing the Internet and these activities alienate them from the real world. If you don’t want to be a hermit, you should break this bad habit immediately. Go out with your friends and play your favorite sports for a change.

9. Hoarding
Don’t be lazy and always keep your house clean. In order to avoid heaps of trash around your home, you are to take out all unnecessary things several times a week. Living in a mess is not comfortable. So, why not throw out your garbage and make your room the best place to live in? Stop hoarding things and you’ll be amazed how much space you have in your home.

Living alone is an excellent experience that can be useful for everyone. Nevertheless, it is important to pay attention to your lifestyle when you move out since you’ll be subjected to numerous bad habits that may complicate your life. Have you ever lived alone? Which bad habits did you have?

11 Efficient Ways to Be More Successful at Work

We can hardly imagine our life without work since it is extremely important to us. First of all, we need to work to earn money, but it’s not the only reason why people spend hours at their workplace. Work is something that gives you an opportunity to do what you really like and feel that your activity is useful and even necessary for others. If you are satisfied with your job, you’ll be happier and your life will be meaningful. Otherwise work will bring you just stress and negative emotions. In order to stay positive at work and succeed in your career, you should constantly stick to certain rules. I hope that the following tips will help you to reach your goal and feel more comfortable at work.

1. Arrive on time
Coming to work on time is one of those things that will guarantee a successful day to you. In case you have to get to the office by public transport, you’ll be able to awake your mind and body while commuting. At the time you arrive at your workplace, you’ll be ready to carry out different tasks and stay alert whenever it is required. No matter where you work, there is a strict demand to arrive at a definite time. Being late is not a good start of your day. Try to be more punctual and you will always make a good impression.

2. Collaborate
Cooperation with your colleagues is a wonderful way to achieve better results because it inspires your creativity, and consequently, you’ll produce lots of interesting ideas. There can be some co-workers who are more experienced than you and they will give you a piece of advice when you need. But you shouldn’t forget that your working ability depends on your personality as well. I know some people who work more productively when they think independently and nobody prevents them.

3. Don’t be obsessed with the final result
Surely, you must set a goal and understand clearly what your desirable result is before you begin to work. Though, it doesn’t mean you should be obsessed with the outcome and see a big tragedy in every failure. Keep calm and do your work patiently without any stress. That is the main clue to your success. Bear in mind that you can’t do everything perfectly and it’s natural to be mistaken from time to time. If you are a conscientious worker it may be rather difficult to detach yourself and stop being anxious about trifles, however, it is worth trying. You won’t get upset when things go wrong and you can’t fulfill your plan.

4. Don’t check your e-mails too frequently
When it comes to work we are constantly short of time. That’s why we should appreciate our time and not waste it for various unimportant things that only distract our attention. There is no necessity to check your e-mails every hour. Despite the fact that you spend just a few minutes for doing this, you have to break this habit and you will save your time considerably. Make it a rule to control all your e-mails in the morning and at the end of your working day. It will take you no more than one hour to read your messages and respond to them.

5. Avoid gossip
Whether we want it or not, it’s almost impossible to avoid gossip at work, especially if women make the majority of the staff. Nevertheless, be careful not to make gossip your basic activity at the workplace. Sometimes we can gossip even without realizing it. Actually, it is not good to talk behind somebody’s back. Sooner or later all negative things that you told about other people will spoil your relations with them. Thus, you’d better avoid small talk in the office and focus on what you are doing.

6. Organize meetings outside
Depending on your job, you will often host meetings that are an indispensable part of your daily schedule. Generally, women don’t organize meetings as frequently as men do. For us meetings make sense when they are really urgent and we have valuable information to discuss. If the meeting is pointless it may turn out to be boring and tiring. Definitely, your office is the most popular location for everyday meetings. Still, you can meet with your colleagues in places like a café or park for a change. By choosing a new place for your meeting, you’ll make it more useful and pleasurable for everyone.

7. Find the job that’s right for you
Work that suits your abilities and skills will bring you pleasure and satisfaction. When looking for a job we must think carefully in order to find something we are good at. People who can implement all their talents, creativity and energy at work are truly happy. Unfortunately, nowadays we can’t get enough money for work that is enjoyable for us. So, we have to give preference to a job that can fit our professional skills and support us financially.

8. Pace yourself
Working without breaks may exhaust your mind and body so that you won’t be able to cope with your workload and be positive throughout the day. Accordingly, it is advisable to take frequent breaks during which you can have a cup of coffee or simply go outside and breathe fresh air. This way you will boost your brain’s activity and renew your concentration. It is considered that we can perform a sustained task no longer than 40 minutes. After that we lose concentration and our attention is scattered. Frequent breaks at work will be a nice solution for you!

9. Work as service
Working as a service is an effective way to enjoy what you are doing and improve your general attitude to it. Make it a habit to do at least something for the benefit of those who surround you and your self-esteem will grow rapidly. It should be our primary goal to make this world better and help others. Perhaps you can’t make global changes, but you can do your work with dedication and integrity.

10. Give your attention
One of the greatest rules that you need to learn and follow is to plunge completely into your work as if it is the most crucial thing in your life. At the very moment you start doing your work with full attention, you’ll manage to surmount numerous difficulties and distractions. By giving your heart and mind to your work you will avoid undesirable mistakes.

11. Holiday days
Regardless of our job and status we all look forward to holiday days. For instance, summer vacation is a cherished desire for everyone who works hard all the year round. Going away from work for a week or even more is beneficial for our health and mood. After a long-awaited rest you will come back to work with fresh mind and in high spirits.

There are plenty of factors that determine our success in career. It is impossible to reach your aim without taking pains. If you want to be positive at work and demonstrate the best results, these tips are right for you. Do you know any other ways to be more successful and feel comfortable at work?

10 Beauty Mistakes That Age You

Getting a younger, healthier look is a reasonable goal and one that many men and women share. Unfortunately, many people engage in practices that have the opposite effect. If you want to look more youthful and vibrant, avoid the following ten beauty mistakes.

1. Thick Makeup
When it comes to most makeup, less is usually more. This is especially true when applying foundation. Thick makeup will actually settle into fine lines and, through some optical effects, enhance them. Foundation is intended to even out color, not fill in lines and wrinkles. It isn’t even intended to cover every millimeter of your skin, but to be used only in problem areas.

When applying foundation, choose one that is sheer and that diffuses light. Never pick a matte, velvet, or flat finish. Apply the foundation sparingly to areas where you would like to even out the color. When you are done, press a moistened (not wet) makeup sponge into areas where there are wrinkles to remove excess powder. Remember to moisturize every time you take your makeup off.

2. Shimmery Eye Shadow and Heavy Concealer
The eyes are one of the first places you will start to show wrinkles and other signs of aging, so they deserve special attention when it comes to avoiding makeup mistakes. Anything that can settle into the fine lines around your eyes or that emphasizes those fine lines will increase the appearance of wrinkles and make you look older.

The eyelids are the place to go for a matte powder, while a shiny finish is best for below the eyes. The area under the eye requires only a thin application of sheer concealer over the darkest shadow areas. Don’t try to cover up the entire area under your eyes. This will only serve to draw attention to fine lines. Many experts recommend using a brush-on highlighter pen with illuminating particles. As an extra tip, avoid bronzer near your eyes. It can actually enhance darkness.

3. Face Powder
Powder is used to reduce shine, but should only be used on the prominent areas of the face. These areas include the nose and chin because the skin is taught and wrinkle free in these locations. These areas almost never include the cheek bones (there are exceptions for very prominent cheek bones.) Powder in any other area of the face will exaggerate wrinkles (powder is a matte product, so refer back to tip 1).

4. Dark Lip Color
Avoid dark lip colors and instead choose light pink, beige, or a color closer to your actual lip color. Dark shades create shadow effects when they collect in the creases along your lips, particularly your upper lips, that enhance the appearance of lines and wrinkles. A light coat of a clear gloss can help to diffuse light, obscuring lines and making your lips look fuller and more supple.

5. Lipstick from the Tube
Never apply lipstick from the tube like is done in every commercial and in every movie. The better way is to use your finger or a lip brush to keep the application light and to have greater control. You want more pigment toward the center of your mouth, so start your application there and blend that color out toward the edges of your lips.

6. Over-tweezing Eyebrows
Pencil-thin eyebrows are a terrible idea. Tweezing is fine, but the area tweezed should be moderate and restricted only to shaping the brows to mimic the shape of the eye. Full brows are in style, so there is no reason to reduce size drastically. Remember that tweezing prevents brows from growing back, so the effect is permanent (even though it takes repeated applications.) That means you need to take extra care in this area.

7. Making Eyebrows too Dark
Brow hair color fades just the same as the hair on your head, so using the same color eyebrow pencil at 50 that you used at 20 is a bad idea. You want your brow pen to blend with your existing brow, not stand out against it. The best rule of thumb is to choose a color that is one or two shades lighter than your natural brow color.

8. Avoid Black Eyeliner
There are three rules to using eyeliner. First, choose a less dramatic color like brown instead of black. Brown will look more natural and will help ease the transition between skin and a dark mascara. The second rule to eyeliner is to never apply it in hard lines. Go for a diffuse, soft, blended color. Smudging the edge of the line farthest from the lashes with a Q-tip will help create a natural look. Finally, never apply liner to the lower lid. This will only serve to emphasize wrinkles and make the eye look smaller.

9. Mascara on Lower Lashes
Mascara applied to the lower lashes can actually enhance the appearance of crow’s feet. The same is true of thick or matted mascara. A dark color applied only to the upper lashes will emphasize the whites of your eyes and make you look more refreshed. Just leave the lower lashes alone.

10. Blush Strokes
Blush can either make your skin look taut and youthful or it can draw attention to sags. Which of these effects blush has comes down to where it is applied and the strokes used. Avoid putting blush on the fleshy parts of the cheeks. Apply it at the highest point of your cheekbone or, alternatively, find the fleshy part and apply the blush just above it. You want to brush from the center of your face out, but don’t start too close to the nose. Always lift upward with each stroke, using a brush large enough to cover your whole cheekbone. Avoid dark colors as well. Go for natural skin tones or more neutral rose colors. Remember not to use a flat or matte finish.

To maintain a healthy, radiant, youthful look, follow the tips above. When you doubt, however, follow the general rules of youthful beauty. First, play with light and shadow. You want to lighten darker areas around your eyes and you want to reduce glare and soften light on the brightest areas. Second, remember that powders, particularly matte powders, will emphasize lines and wrinkles. Less is more with powders, so use sparingly. Follow these rules of thumb and the ten tips above to achieve a youthful, sophisticated look.

10 Simple Steps to Rosy Pink Lips

Your lips play a big role in determining your overall attractiveness. Having dry, dull lips can be unsightly and off-putting to those around you. However, it’s easy to get the healthy and vibrant lips you’ve been dreaming of if you know a few tricks. Here are ten simple steps to rosy pink lips:

1. Keep lips moisturized
The first step towards getting naturally pink lips is to use moisturizing lip balm. It’s best to apply a liberal coating at least twice a day. It’s especially beneficial to put on a thick layer before bed. Your lips will soak up the added moisture while you sleep and you’ll awaken to a rosier color in the morning!

2. Avoid too much sun exposure
You probably know that too much sun can be bad for the skin on your face and body. However, you may not know that those rays can damage your lips as well. Try to limit your sun exposure as much as possible. If you must be out in direct sunlight, at least use a lip balm with a high SPF count.

3. Lay off the caffeine
Caffeinated drinks can be detrimental to your health in general, but they can particularly affect your lips. Caffeinated beverages like coffee, soda and tea are often dark in color. Sipping them too much can lead to dark lips and may wear away at your lips’ natural protective layering. If you aren’t willing to give up your daily latte or cappuccino, consider opting for a smaller size and drinking it right down rather than nursing it all morning.

4. Stay hydrated
While you should steer clear of caffeinated drinks, that doesn’t mean you should avoid drinking plenty of water. Staying hydrated is a great way to achieve rose-colored lips. Just like the rest of your skin, your lips will appear brighter and healthier when they’re given an adequate amount of H2O. So drink up and you will have those pinker lips you’ve been hoping for.

5. Use a lip scrub
Exfoliating is another terrific tactic to attain pink lips. There are several good products available at your favorite cosmetic store. However, you can also make your own homemade scrub by blending equal parts of sugar, water and honey until a paste forms. Rub the mixture onto your lips with your finger or a lip brush before rinsing it thoroughly. The exfoliation will repair damaged lips and stimulate the growth of new skin, which means your lips will look rosier.

6. Avoid high-pigment lipsticks
If you typically use somewhat darker shades of lipstick like burgundy, fuchsia or maroon, you may be darkening your lips without even realizing it. Many of those darker shades contain higher levels of pigment. That pigment can be absorbed into your lips and leave them looking drab. Stick with lighter tones of lipstick to highlight your natural rosiness.

7. Remove lipstick before bed
You should always take off any heavy lipstick or lip liner before you hit the sack. Be sure to remove any traces of lip makeup by rubbing on a little petroleum jelly and letting it sit for a few minutes. Then, you can wipe off the jelly with a cotton ball and any remaining lipstick will smear off with it. By taking away all the lip makeup you’ve worn throughout the day, you’ll allow your lips to “breathe” and reduce the chance of absorbing the aforementioned pigment.

8. Suck on some citrus
Citrus fruits like limes, lemons and oranges all contain acidic properties that can rejuvenate lips and make them appear rosier. By sucking on one of these fruits, you’ll coat your lips with the juice and reap all the healthy benefits. In other words, puckering up with citrus can lead to puckering up pinker lips!

9. Cut down your sodium intake
Consuming too much salt can leave your lips dull, cracked and dry. Cutting down on your sodium intake can help combat that dryness. Skip the salt shaker and try to avoid eating too many sodium-laden processed foods. Your lips will benefit greatly from the dietary changes.

10. Smack your lips
Sometimes you don’t want to wait for moisturizing lip balms or scrubs to work. For example, you might want your lips to have a rosy glow for a driver’s license picture or a selfie while you’re on vacation. In those cases, pursing and smacking your lips together a few times will stimulate blood flow and momentarily give them a pinker tone. It’s a temporary fix, but at least you’ll have the rosiest lips in all the family photo albums!

Every woman would love to have lips that look vivid and nourished. By using the steps on this list, you can get the rosy pink lips you’ve always wanted. Give all these tips a try to sock that dullness right in the kisser!

9 Warning Signs You Are Dating the Wrong Guy

Every woman has some dating doubts, but if you’re experiencing any of the following issues, perhaps you are dating the wrong guy. To find long-term compatibility and true happiness, we should take matters into our own hands. Here are a few warning signs you are dating Mr. Wrong.

1. He thinks the world revolves around him
He thinks the world revolves around him
If your guy is more interested in how you fit in his world and he doesn’t take into consideration your individual needs, you’re certainly dating the wrong guy. You feel that your partner only thinks about himself and he always does whatever he wants, even when you don’t like his actions and he knows about it.

2. You desperately try to impress him
Do you feel like you are wearing a mask when you are with him? Do you desperately try to impress him but he demands more? Ladies, your man must love you for who you are, so don’t be afraid to be yourself. If he doesn’t love you as you are, why are you still with him?

3. He is too clingy
While most men complain about women being needy and clingy, there are guys who are more clingy than girls. If your boyfriend is one of them, you may be dating Mr. Wrong. It’s not healthy and wise to expect you to be his singular source of joy and happiness. You and your guy should have some alone time in order to keep the spark in your relationship.

4. Your family and friends have never met him
Did you introduce your boyfriend to your family or friends? No? Why? Because he doesn’t want or because you are embarrassed by him so much that you don’t want your social circles to know him? If he doesn’t want to meet your family, it’s a red flag to watch out for in your relationship. Are you sure he loves you?

5. He doesn’t listen to you
If you feel like your partner never listens to you, you might be dating the wrong man. You feel sad and you share your emotions and feelings with him, and he starts speaking about his friend’s new girlfriend without noticing your sadness, it’s a sure sign he doesn’t care about you. When he feels bad, he demands lots of attention and he hates when you don’t listen to him. Just break up with him. You deserve someone better, trust me.

6. You can’t imagine your future with him
Let’s be honest, ladies. Can you imagine your future with your boyfriend without crying or laughing? If the thought of a lifelong commitment makes you want to cry, why are you dating him? He might be a good guy who wants to have a serious relationship.

7. You are not happy when you are with him
If spending time with him exhausts you and you feel depressed and stuck each time you are with him, this is a warning sign you are dating the wrong guy. You should feel alive and happy with your boyfriend, not sad.

8. He doesn’t have any interests and hobbies
Is your relationship his only interest? If your boyfriend has no interests or hobbies outside of your relationship, perhaps you are dating Mr. Wrong. If he is not passionate about anything and he doesn’t have any life goals, you shouldn’t hope that your life with him will be amazing.

9. You must avoid tough conversations
It’s important for couples to discuss their future. If each difficult conversation, for instance, about religion, politics, or how many children you want, makes him angry and it leads to a serious fight, you are definitely dating the wrong man. If you want to have kids and he doesn’t even want to hear about them, you might have a big problem. It’s better to discuss these issues before tying the knot.

I know it’s hard to be alone so you might stay in a relationship knowing that is destined for failure. But you both just waste your time. If you don’t see your future with him, end your relationship and meet the man you will be happy with. So, ladies, are you dating Mr. Wrong?

10 Reasons You’re Always Hungry

It’s quite natural to be hungry when you don’t eat for a long time and do lots of physical exercises. This feeling is really bothering. When you are hungry, you can’t work, study and do plenty of other things because you are obsessed with the desire to eat something. But sometimes you may be hungry no matter how much and how often you eat. Constant hunger will force you to consume more and more food that may lead to negative consequences like overweight. To avoid this you should find out the root of your problem and not repeat your mistakes in future. Have a look at the following list of reasons and probably you’ll understand why you always want to eat.

1. You Skip Breakfast
If you tend to skip breakfast, break this habit. Breakfast is the most substantial meal of the day that is necessary for you. Try to eat your breakfast regularly and your blood sugar will be stabilized so that you will not crave foods during the day. You need to include protein into your morning dishes in order to cope with hunger more effectively. Make it a rule to eat every morning and you will manage to reduce your daily consumption of food.

2. You Are Dehydrated
There are some moments when your mind may mislead you. That means you shouldn’t eat every time you feel hungry; perhaps your body is dehydrated and you simply need some water. The symptoms of hunger and dehydration are almost the same, so you can easily mix them up. For example, you will lack energy and feel sleepy. That’s why I recommend you to drink a glass of water at first and later you will see whether you are hungry or thirsty. This tactic may be very helpful for you and you’ll save a great number of calories.

3. You Eat Empty Calories
To provide good nourishment to your body, you have to choose the right foods, otherwise you’ll soon get hungry even after eating a big portion. It would be nice if you remove empty calories from your diet as they may be harmful to your health. Why not switch to wholesome dishes that are full of nutrients and different vitamins? Consequently, your appetite will change and you will not be starving anymore.

4. You Lack Regular Sleep
Regular sleep is one of the main things that we need to stay healthy, beautiful and energetic. Plus, our appetite is highly dependent on how much we sleep. If you don’t get enough sleep, your body will be exhausted and it will require extra energy. All this will result in the constant feeling of hunger. Certainly, food is an enormous source of energy for your body. So, every time when you suffer from sleep deprivation you will try to eat more than you usually do. Undoubtedly, healthy sleep will help you keep fit and improve your well-being at the same time.

5. You Don’t Eat Enough Healthy Fats and Proteins
Being constantly hungry will bring you discomfort throughout the day and you will not miss an opportunity to have a snack whenever possible. The solution to this problem may be very simple – just add more protein and healthy fats to your eating plan and you’ll feel full for several hours. After eating these nutrients you won’t crave food because they are digested for a long period of time.

6. You’re Bored
We should admit that we often rush into the kitchen and look for tasty foods in our fridge when we have nothing to do. For most people, this is the most efficient way to get rid of boredom, but, unfortunately, it leads to unwanted calories. If your hunger is caused by boredom, you should resist a temptation to eat something. Actually, there are so many other activities you can do to amuse yourself.

7. You Watch Too Much TV
According to a study from the USDA, people who watch TV for over 2 hours a day have a higher risk of obesity. About 60% of Americans fall into that category. The thing is, when you watch TV, you tend to eat bigger amounts of high-calorie snack foods and drink more sugary drinks, which make you crave even more sugary snacks and drinks.

8. You Are Burned Out at Work
According to a study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, consistently heavy workloads can impact your eating habits. 230 women took part in this study – women who felt burned out at work were more likely to overeat compared to those who were more satisfied with their job.

9. You Drink Too Much
Alcohol is actually a bigger contributor to overeating than watching TV. Drinking too much alcohol can increase ghrelin levels, a hormone that makes us feel hungry. No wonder you want to eat more after drinking that glass of wine. This is probably the most overlooked reason why you are always hungry.

10. There’s another Reason to Your Problem
In case you can’t overcome your hunger, it would be reasonable to turn to your doctor and discover what is wrong with you. For instance, the feeling of hunger may be the signal of such disease as diabetes. Due to this you are to consult your doctor and check up your health. When you know the reason, you can solve the problem efficiently.

At the very moment you’ve realized that you can’t fight back your hunger, you have to think over your lifestyle and change it for better. Permanent hunger is a sign that you make definite mistakes or even you have some illness. To protect yourself from undesirable effects, don’t put your problem until tomorrow. Start acting right now! What ways do you use to combat your hunger?