Melania Trump Wears $1,380 Shirt While Gardening And People Online React

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Initial news coverage focused on the event itself, with reporters commenting on Trump continuing former First Lady Michelle Obama’s gardening traditions. But after First Lady fashion-watcher Kate Bennett noted the shirt’s price on her Twitter, the media exploded.

According to Net-A-Porter, the online designer store that stocks it, Trump’s shirt is meant to have a “rebellious ’80s attitude,” and draws its inspiration from counterculture icons David Bowie, George Michael and Prince. It’s a part of their “grunge” collection, meant to be worn with distressed jeans to emphasize its “laid-back feel.”

Trump isn’t the first First Lady to make waves for the cost of her outfits.

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Obama was famous for her gorgeous-yet-affordable J. Crew chic, and her “sartorial diplomacy” helped define her role as the administration’s approachable “mom-in-chief.”

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And as Obama drew criticism for “not looking like a First Lady,” and showing her scandalously-gorgeous upper arms, Trump is currently under fire for wearing a shirt worth almost half the average monthly American salary.

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Reactions online were split evenly; some deriding the First Lady’s expensive fashion choices, others calling the focus on it “typical liberal fake news.”

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While some lashed out at Bennet for what they saw as a partisan tweet, Bennett pointed out that she had given the exact same coverage to former FLOTUS Obama, including the pricing research.

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And while some frustration about Melania’s outfit focused on the shirt’s political optics, other Twitter users expressed bafflement that Trump’s thrift-store-chic tartan had been that much, to begin with.

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Finally, some opined that, given Trump’s obvious discomfort getting up close and personal with the dirt, the fact that she was wearing such an expensive outfit to do so was unsurprising.

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Implications about the Trump family’s “out-of-touchness” aside, the story gave people a chance for a few bipartisan laughs. In a month when the world faced nuclear woes, mass shootings, monster storms and political crises, the moment of levity was well-needed.

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5 Things to Remember While Job Hunting in November

No matter what time of year, job hunting is a daunting task that makes even the most polished professional flustered and disgruntled. The funny thing is that most of us have what it takes to nail every single interview or job offer we receive, but we somehow lose sight of the simplest, most useful tips out there.

1. Do not be seasonal


Sure, you might sign up for seasonal work because business is surely booming wherever you are. Every retailer is out there, recruiting people just like you to keep shelves stocked, perch children on their lap, or even do some heavy lifting. So, you might be thinking, “Well, it is cool that I might get a job for the holidays, but then I am just going to have to look again after the New Year.”

Well, no. Not always. Show a little ambition when you are at your interview. Have a goal with no end. When you show Human Resources and the hiring officer that you are full of potential, you also show them you are the kind of person they will want to hang onto. You know what they say, “Good help is hard to come by.” So if you deliver above and beyond their expectations for “seasonal” help, you will not be just a “temporary” add in.

2. Do not only do online applications
The convenience of online applications is great… but it also seriously cuts into face time. Very rarely have I ever been called back for something I submitted online. What gets me attention is dropping off a smashing resume or inquiring with management about open positions at their establishment.

Once you have them interested and expecting you to apply, you might receive a paper version or then get invited to do an online application. They will be waiting for your application if they are serious about you.

Plus, by speaking with company members throughout the ranks, you built rapport. You earn gold stars for setting yourself apart from the faceless people sending in just words. Most of all, you can show just how much getting the position would mean to you – and that earnestness is what employees seek out. Remember, networking and connections equal success.

3. Your resume is not set in stone
I know, I know. Doing a really awesome resume takes hours and you should not have to change it. But well, not every job you apply for is going to be the same. Not every employer is cut from same cloth. So, neither should your resume.

I am a personal fitness trainer, yoga instructor, bartender, freelance writer, translator, and professional dancer. Guess how many resumes I have? Okay, I have lost count. But case in point, my yoga resume is nowhere near the same as my bartender resume.

Modify words. Break out that thesaurus. Switch up experience and credentials. And always be sure to apply unique skills that will make you value for the position in which you are applying for.

4. Use LinkedIn
Using social media to get hired? Blasphemy! Maybe in the 1900s it was, but this is the 21st century, and if you are not up to par with 90% of all recruiters out there, you will not ever get noticed. Ever.

LinkedIn does not require a lot of work. Nor does it need to become your social feed like Facebook. But it is a place to create links with professionals and entrepreneurs with similar goals. On LinkedIn, you can build references, get invitations to job offers, and also be easily found by those searching for someone who fits their needs perfectly.

5. Be thankful
There was a public speaking class I took a few years ago where one of our “tests” was to hold a formal business interview for our “dream job.” One of the tips the instructor gave us that has forever struck a chord with me was this: Be thankful. And since you are searching for a job around the holidays, there is no better time than to spread a little cheer. November is all about being thankful, after all.

Here is how it works. You get interviewed and are neck-and-neck with another candidate. After the final set of interviews, one of you decides to send a heartfelt thank you letter to HR or to whomever you spoke with throughout the course to getting hired.

The other one does nothing. Guess who looks like the better human being? That is right, the person who extended a thank you, albeit they might not have known whether they were getting that position or not. No one wants to hire an automaton. And heck, if you can write something kind, that shows a whole lot of character.

Remember, when it comes to getting hired this November, you are facing a massive amount of competition. Do not try to conform to the rest of crowd. Go the extra mile, and you might wind up clinching the job of your dreams instead of a dead-end.

10 Great Beauty Habits to Try

We all want to look our best every day, but sometimes we take on bad habits that keep us from it. We know we should avoid smoking, staying in the sun too long, and eating junk food, but that isn’t enough. Here are 10 great beauty habits you should work into your daily life.

1. Keep Makeup Light
Unless you’re going to the Academy Awards, there’s no reason to cake on the makeup, especially during the day. Not only does heavy makeup look unnatural, it’s bad for your skin. If you’re constantly clogging your pores with thick foundation and concealer, your skin will look tired and greasy. Clogged pores look dull and cause breakouts. Putting too much eye makeup on can cause wrinkles because you’re constantly pulling on the delicate skin around your eyes. Reduce the amount of makeup you apply every day, and consider taking 1 or 2 days off from makeup each week to give your skin a break.

2. Pat On Concealer
Concealer is heavy makeup that won’t look right if too much is smeared on. Pat it lightly into your skin, and always use your pinky finger when applying concealer around your eyes. This way you will get maximum coverage with the least amount of product.

3. Never Overdo Lips and Eyes at the Same Time
Sometimes you might want to make a statement. A smokey eye or new bright eye shadow colors can look great if it’s done right. Bright red lipstick or bright pink color can be equally attractive, but if you do both at the same time, your entire look will be off balance. Stick with one or the other.

4. Clarify Hair Once and a While
You could be having a week full of great hair days only to end with a day of limp, scraggly hair. The perfect shampoo and conditioner just don’t seem to work anymore. Clarifying your hair once and a while with a difference clarifying shampoo might be exactly what you need. Hair products have built up on your hair weighing it down. However, don’t use a clarifying shampoo more than twice a month because it can strip your hair of its natural oils.

5. Switch Products Every so Often
Sometimes you don’t need to clarify your hair. Switching hair products give a similar result without the drying effects. Have 2 or three different shampoos and conditioners on hand to keep your hair looking fresh. Do the same with other products such as skin care products or makeup. Sometimes your body just needs a change to start looking its best again.

6. Wash Off all Makeup Every Night
At night after a long day, it can be tempting to just fall asleep without washing the layer of makeup on your face. Don’t do this. Leaving the makeup on will not only stain your pillow case, it will suffocate your skin as well. It could cause acne and other inflammation. Clean your face every night with a good makeup remover or wash your face with a cleansing oil. Makeup removing clothes also work well and are easy to use.

7. Test Out Makeup Before Buying
If you buy a makeup product that doesn’t work for you, it would be wasteful to throw it out or stick it in the back of your drawer and never use it. Even if you decide to wear it anyway, you won’t look as great as you could. Whenever possible, test out makeup at the store before you buy it. If you can’t test it in the store, find a friend, maybe the one who recommended it to you, who already has the makeup and try it out. Test out foundation and concealer on the back of your hand. You can see how it matches your skin and test coverage and durability.

8. Wear Sunscreen
Age spots can be covered up with makeup, but wrinkles are hard to mask. Both signs of visible aging can be prevented or at least postponed by wearing sunscreen. If you don’t like wearing sunscreen, look for makeup with sunscreen in it or always wear a large brimmed hat when you go outdoors. Sunglasses are also important to protect your eyes from UV rays.

9. Use Scrubs and Clay Masks
Dull skin is most often caused by dirt and dead skin cells sitting on top of your skin. Use a scrub at least twice a month to gently scrub off the gunk that a regular cleaner can’t clear off. Use a clay mask once or twice a month to shrink your pores and draw out toxins. Bentonite clay is great for facial masks.

10. Follow a Healthy Diet
The most important beauty habit you can develop to keep your hair, skin, nails, and face looking their best is to follow a healthy diet. Drink 64 ounces of water a day, get plenty of vegetables, fruits, healthy fats, and proteins, and keep the junk out of your diet whenever possible. A healthy diet starts from the inside.

Instead of focusing on your bad habits, develop new, healthy habits. Looking beautiful everyday takes work, but it can be achieved with great results without taking on much more work.

9 Smart Ways to Become Healthier

Health is one of the greatest things that really matter in our life. We used to take our health for granted and we often forget to pay attention to those things that can make us healthier. If you are healthy, you’ll be able to work, study and do various activities more productively. But if you have certain problems with your health, nothing will bring you happiness. Due to the fact that our life is very busy we almost don’t have time to take care of our health. As a result, lots of people suffer from different diseases that make them feel bad. However, there are some simple things that may help us improve our physical and emotional state. To stay healthy and happy you don’t have to spend huge sums of money, just make sure you include the following things into your daily routine and you’ll manage to prevent numerous health disorders.

1. Sleep More
It is a well-known fact that good sleep contributes greatly to our health and beauty either. According to scientific researches people who don’t sleep enough are more subjected to illnesses as their immunity is weak. Plus, they tend to gain weight quickly that can turn out to be a big problem. When you stay awake at night, the hunger will bother you and you’ll consume foods that may be harmful to your waistline. Dietarians say that those who constantly lack sleep usually eat more than they really need. That’s why you’d better sleep more instead of eating unhealthy snacks.

2. Laugh As Much As You Want
Laughter is considered to be extremely beneficial for us. Every day we face plenty of stressful situations that have a negative impact on our health, so, if you have an opportunity to laugh, don’t restrict your emotions and enjoy the moment. It has been proven that laughter can expend blood vessels and support your vascular health. Moreover, it stimulates the production of endorphins, hormones that are responsible for our good mood and bright emotions.

3. Eat Carotenoids
At first it may seem that there is no connection between our health and beauty, but when you look beautiful and attractive, you’ll feel more confident and content. Consequently, these positive feelings will be reflected in your physical condition. Thus, it is necessary to focus on our beauty as well. We all know that health benefits of fruits and vegetables are countless. Furthermore, they are perfect for our skin. Make it a rule to eat veggies like cabbage, tomatoes, kale, broccoli and peppers. Being full of carotenoids they will provide a fresh glow to your skin. This way, you’ll be able to stay attractive and healthy at the same time.

4. Stay Active While Aging
Certainly, nobody wants to get older but the process of aging is inevitable for all of us. Then, why not age artfully? Unfortunately, most seniors prefer to stay at home after they retire. Having no social life, these people feel unnecessary in society. Finally, it may lead to stress and their health will get worse. For this reason, it would be a splendid idea to do some enjoyable activity when you grow old. It has been found that aged people, who do things like painting, singing or creative writing, are healthier and more satisfied with their life unlike those who sit back. More importantly, your active lifestyle will give you an opportunity to enhance the immune system and develop your personality.

5. Get a Massage
Doctors assert that massage is always salubrious to our body. Firstly, it will help you relax and refresh your mind after a hard day. Secondly, you should try massage since it will lower your blood pressure and the number of stress hormones in your body will be diminished. All together this increases the amount of natural killer cells that protect our body against bacteria, viruses and cancer cells. Even a single massage session can ensure particular biological changes.

6. Work with Friends
It’s quite difficult to imagine our existence without work. Taking into account the fact that we spend hours in the office it is necessary to create supportive and friendly atmosphere at our workplace. There are lots of evidences that those who get on well with their colleagues live longer because they don’t often deal with tension and anxiety caused by hostility and misunderstanding. Therefore, you are recommended to get acquainted with your co-workers when you apply for a job.

7. Clean without Toxic
Today we have an enormous choice of detergents that are very effective when it comes to cleaning our homes. Despite this most household products are dangerous to our health as they contain toxics. Instead you can prepare a home-made detergent that will reduce bacteria. Mix some lemon juice, vinegar, baking soda and use this substance to clean any dirty place in your house. It has been discovered that vinegar is excellent in fighting mold and germs.

8. Communicate with Your Neighbors
People are social beings and communication is an integral part of our life. In order to be healthier and happier we should develop a strong community. These days the majority of the world’s population lives in cities and towns that are full of bustle and inhabitants don’t notice each other. Some people living in block apartments even don’t know their neighbors and never talk to them. I think it is terrible to be surrounded by hundreds of people but still stay alone. Studies show that heart disease occurs rarely among those who live in a close-knit community. In addition, their emotional health is greatly improved.

9. Don’t Lose Your Hope
Sometimes we have certain difficulties that may result in frustration and depression which affect our health ruinously. Hence, you ought to be optimistic and think positively in spite of all troubles. Professors say that happy people almost don’t have risk of cardiovascular disease. Don’t lose your hope whatever happens in your life and work persistently to achieve your goal. This is the main key to your success and well-being.

Nothing can be more valuable and important than our health, that’s why we must always find time to care for it. I hope that these tips will help you become healthier without extra efforts and expenses. The only thing you need is a great desire to improve your health and positive attitude to life. If you know other ways to be healthy and happy, I’ll be glad to hear from you.

10 Sneaky Tricks to Eat Less

If you’re trying to lose those unwanted pounds, you might want to know some tricks to eat less throughout the day. Sticking to a healthy diet isn’t fun and easy. Between consuming bland foods and depriving yourself, you may simply give up after the first few weeks. When you fool yourself into eating less, it’s much easier to achieve your weight loss goal. Below is the list of 10 sneaky tricks that will help you to eat less throughout the day.

1. Water
Drinking a full glass of water before eating is one of the best ways to trick yourself into eating less. The point is, the water fills the stomach and you feel full faster from your meal. In fact, the water is not the only drink that fills the stomach. Juice is another option. Just make sure you avoid soda, sweet teas and coffee. They are just empty calories your body doesn’t need at all. I recommend drinking water with lemon that helps with nausea as well.

2. Small plate
Believe it or not, but a small plate can really help you to eat less. Many people say that this easy trick doesn’t work, but I can say from my personal experience that it actually works. When your plate is big, you have a lot of space for food. When your plate or bowl is smaller, you don’t have free space to pile up food. Buy smaller plates, eat less and drop those unwanted pounds with almost no effort.

3. Non-dominant hand
Whether you are enjoying your meal or snacking, try switching to your non-dominant hand in order to eat less. The research conducted by psychologists of the University of Southern California showed that people who ate with their non-dominant hand consumed less food (popcorn was used in this experiment) than those who used their dominant hand.

4. Large fork
I know, I know, this sounds absolutely ridiculous, but the study published in the Journal of Consumer Research showed that eating with a larger fork can help to consume less food. You think you’re making more progress on your meal and eat more, but in fact you eat less.

5. Eating slowly
When you eat fast you eat more food and you may eventually gain weight. By eating slower, you will consume less food, and that will help you drop more pounds. Plus, eating slowly enhances the pleasure of the enjoyable dining experience. Enjoy your meal slowly, ladies!

6. Stop eating while watching TV
A lot of different studies show that when people are distracted, they typically eat more. If you like eating while watching your favorite shows, I guess this is a bad news for you. You should break this habit immediately if you don’t want to gain weight. Eating while playing on the computer or reading is another bad habit to break.

7. Sugar-free gum
To eat less, always carry sugar-free gum in your pocket or purse. The ingredients in the chewing gum can curb your cravings and help you snack less. And if your friend has a junk fest that includes potato chips, cookies and ice cream, and you are trying to stick to your diet, sugar-free gum will certainly help control your cravings.

8. Move healthy food up front
When we enter the store, most of us snap up the food items at the front since they are the first thing we see. This same behavior can also happen in your kitchen. Have you ever noticed that you take the first food item you see in your fridge than the fourth or fifth? If you want to eat less, place healthy foods such as fresh fruits and veggies front and center in your fridge and make sure you hide high-calorie foods in the back.

9. Make smart food swaps
Whether you are trying to eat healthy or lose weight, you need to learn how to make smart food swaps. While chocolate is chocolate and bacon is bacon, you can opt for dark chocolate instead of milk chocolate and eat Canadian bacon instead of regular bacon. If you know what smart food swaps to make, you can easily trick your mind into thinking you are satisfied. Just make sure you control your portions and use the tricks I mentioned before.

10. Learn to eat mindfully
The key to eating less is to eat mindfully. Pay attention to how your body feels after eating. If you always feel an energy crash after eating, it’s a sure sigh you overeat. Learn to eat mindfully and really enjoy what you eat. Hopefully, these several tips on how to start eating mindfully will help you.

Healthy eating plan and exercise are two essential things for weight loss. However, these simple tricks will help put you much closer to your weight loss goal. How do you fool yourself into eating less throughout the day? Please, feel free to share your weight loss tips with us.

7 Foods You Shouldn’t Eat While on Your Period

If you don’t want to feel down during your period, you should pay attention to what you are eating during that time of the month. Did you know that there are certain foods you should avoid eating while on your period? When it comes to painful cramps, bloating and mood swings, food plays an important role. Although there is no magical cure for PMS, check out the list of the foods you shouldn’t eat while on your period to feel better.

1. Processed foods
Processed foods are a quick and easy choice, but they can make you feel even worse. For instance, canned foods and chips contain large amounts of sodium, which can cause discomfort and bloating. Choose wholesome foods and healthy snacks, such as a handful of unsalted nuts.

2. Fatty meats
Meats contain high amounts of saturated fat, which can cause inflammation and pain. Moreover, if you are suffering from menstrual cramps, these fats can worsen your pain. This is one of the reasons why you shouldn’t eat fatty meats while on your period. However, if you can’t live a day without meat, try eating lean meats or fish.

3. Commercial baked goods
I know, all those baked goods are so delicious, but unfortunately they contain great amounts of trans-fats, elevating the estrogen level. It can cause a pain in the uterus, when you are on your period. I suggest you to eat bread that is rich in fiber instead. If you stick to a healthy diet, opt for whole grain bread.

4. Sugary foods
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Cakes, cookies, candies and other sugary foods are all unhealthy options and you should never eat these foods, especially if you want to stay healthy and slim. Sugary foods boost your mood for only a little while. During your period, sugary foods worsen menstrual cramps and can even make you feel miserable. If you are craving sugar, opt for some sweet fruits such as peach, melon, or mango.

5. Ice cream, cheese and cream
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I don’t know about you, but I like dairy products, but they contain fats and have the same effects as most fatty meats. From personal experience, I can recommend you to avoid eating ice cream, cream and cheeses while on your period. Also, try to avoid creamy or cheesy dishes when cooking. If you crave ice cream, choose a non-dairy gelato with no added sugar.

6. Caffeine
Caffeine contributes to cramps and can cause irregular periods. Moreover, it can cause mood swings and sleep difficulties. It’s recommended to avoid drinking coffee during your period. You can drink teas instead, though many of them contain caffeine, but it has less caffeine than coffee. It’s also recommended to avoid drinking energy drinks.

7. Alcohol
Alcohol worsens PMS symptoms and cramps and it can also cause mood swings and lead to depression. The thing is, alcohol can act as a blood thinner, increasing your flow and causing more discomfort. Enjoy your cup of tea and stay away from alcohol and coffee.

Most women experience discomfort during their period. If you are one of them, avoiding consuming these foods and drinks may be the perfect solution for you. What’s your favorite food to eat while on your period?

7 Ways to Earn More Money While Working Full-Time

Regardless of where you live, you probably, like the majority of us, suffer from lack of money. Having a full-time job is great, but oftentimes it does not bring the money you need to live a trouble-free (not luxury!) life. This is why it is always a good idea to have a backup plan. Here is how you can make extra money today despite working full-time.

1. Be a freelance consultant
If you have been working in a certain field – be it law, accounting, programming or management – for many years already, why not share your knowledge and experience with others? A freelance consultant is an easy part-time job that help many people earn extra hundred dollars each month.

2. Consider DJ-ing
Are you a music junkie who spends nights listening and dancing to Djs? Why not become a DJ yourself? Not only will you save on entertainment, you can make even more money than your full-time job offers you. Bartending is another option to think over, albeit do not expect to earn tons of bucks.

3. Be a translator
Whether online or in real life, translators earn up to $40 per hour. A few hours a day will be enough to make extra cash for your dream vacation destination or that designer bag. Take advantage of your bilingual skills to help others and increase your monthly income.

4. Consider typing jobs
You do not have to have excellent typing skills in order to get a part-time typing job. There are many employers who are looking for people who can help them complete a typing project. You can become one of them. The only thing to keep in mind before getting the project is that you will must stick to a certain deadline.

5. Become an online tutor
Online tutors typically boost their income by helping people from the other countries to learn languages, law or any other subject that they need for entering a college or university. No matter where you live, you can help students from Spain, China, France or USA and get your money via PayPal. What can be easier?

6. Take a full advantage of your hobby
Have fantastic baking skills? Why not sell your own bread, cookies, or cakes? Love to create cute jewelry pieces? You can sell them online and earn pretty much money. You can also sell sewed garments, if you know at least basic sewing techniques. The possibilities are endless.

7. Be a creative writer
There is a big difference between a creative writer and an ordinary writer, especially when it comes to money. Creative writers make up to $100 per article, while ordinary writers get only $10. Creativity is not a gift. You can develop and use it to your full advantage. There are many websites for writers like Fiverr, Weworkremotely, Upwork, iWriter, Freelance Writing Gigs and many more.

In a modern technology age, earning extra cash is no problem anymore. Once you figure out how to make those extra bucks, you will be able to improve your financial situation in a matter of a few months. If you have any other ways to boost income while working full time, let us know in the comments.

10 Table Manners to Teach Your Children

Good table manners are an important key to your children’s social success. Children aren’t born with good manners, and teaching them is your responsibility, as a parent. In fact, table manners can bring in a lot of positive changes in your children’s behavior and help in developing moral values. Read on and find out a few table manners you should teach your children.

1. Greet people
Nowadays many children just come to the dining table, quickly eat a meal and move away without greeting people around them. And this leaves a really bad impression about the children in everybody’s mind. Teach your children to have a look at people sitting around them at the dining table and greet them. First impression is the best and most lasting impression! If your kid forgets to greet everyone, you can tactfully remind the child to say ‘Hello’ to others. To set an example you can greet your child first.

2. Setting the table
It’s essential for your children to learn how to set the table properly. They will always know that the forks go on the left, and the spoons, knives and the glass on the right. The napkin should lie beside the fork and the blade of the knife should face the plate. Your child should also remember that it’s unacceptable to eat until everyone is served. Many parents skip this important step, and this is a very big mistake! However, these skills will come in handy when you need a couple of extra hands to help you or when the children should serve the table by themselves.

3. Manners of sitting while eating
Teach your children to sit straight, with their elbows off the table and the napkins on their lap. If the child doesn’t know when it’s time to put the napkin on the lap, tell them to observe and repeat after older people. It may be hard for children to sit for a long time if their legs don’t reach the ground. But try to make your kids accustomed to sitting like this for at least 5-10 minutes a day. If your kid is too active, let them get up from the table, push the chair back and play for some time. These table manners are of great importance when you eat at the restaurant or visit friends and kinsfolk.

4. Chew with their mouth closed
This is one of the most important table manners you should teach your children. Nobody would wish to look at people eating with their mouth opened. Teach your kid to take small bites of food instead of stuffing the mouth full. Your kid should know that talking with a full mouth is unacceptable. Moreover, it’s highly dangerous since the child can choke with the food. So be sure to teach your children to chew the food slowly and with their mouth closed.

5. Ask for food
You should also teach your children how to ask for food rather than reaching across others to get it. Perhaps, the child doesn’t know when it’s okay to get the food themselves and when it’s better to ask for food. As long as you can reach the food with your arm leaning forward a bit, take the food yourself. If not, ask for food. Words ‘Please’ and ‘Thank you’ are indispensable while asking to pass you something. The correct way to pass the food is in a counterclockwise direction, from left to right. First, teach your children to pass the food to the person sitting close to them.

6. Use a fork and spoon
Teach your children to use a fork and spoon unless the food is meant to be eaten with fingers. Forks and spoons can make a very irritating noise, so teach your kids to eat slowly and gently, without banging against the plate. Your kids should know that it’s forbidden to push food to the fork with fingers. Your child can use a spoon for this purpose. When eating with a spoon it’s necessary to sip from the side. Teach your kids not to lick the cutlery when they finish with their meal. Since all these tricks require great practice you’d better start teaching your children at a very young age. Sure, they will make a mess, but it’s worth it!

7. Don’t dump the food
Be sure to teach your children not to dump the food completely into mouth. Teach your children to put small morsels of food in the mouth. Stuffing mouth with food may result in choking that can lead to some serious health problems. Not only is it better for digestion and health, it will also make the conversation more pleasant and easier. If you’re going to eat out or with your friends, make sure your child had some light snack not to feel hungry.

8. Don’t pick their teeth
Tell your children that they should never pick their teeth at the table. Tell them to use a toothpick and if the children feel restless, ask them to excuse themselves and go to the restroom to pick their teeth. If the child notices that a piece of food stuck in the tablemate’s teeth, the child should quietly tell about that or signal with their eyes or chin. Teach your kid some tricks to remove hot or unwanted food from the mouth.

9. Say ‘Thank you’
Teach your children to say ‘Thank you’ to the person who cooked and served food for them. Explain your kids that the person took time and energy to prepare and serve the food, and that’s why they should show their appreciation. Teach your kids to be thankful for service when you eat out. When your kids are accustomed to say ‘Thank you’ at home, they’re more likely to do it when they’re at the restaurant or someone else’s home. When a child wants to refuse the food, they should say ‘No, thank you’ as well.

10. Respect the food
Finally, it’s also very important to teach your kids not to make any rude comments about the food being served. Tell them that it will hurt the person who cooked the meal, spending their valuable time, energy and money. Also teach your children not to waste the food that is served to them. Fighting for food or yelling at the dinner table is highly disrespectful to the host and to the meal. Teach your children not to make impolite and tactless judgments about someone’s eating habits and preferences. Explain that every food that is on the table is a blessing.

No matter whether you’re eating out, with friends or at home, good table manners are always important. Good table manners are a powerful tool of social interaction that will help your kids in their adult life. Table manners are appreciated by most people. Your child should learn respectful attitude towards food, and good table manners should be taught from the young age. Do you have any tips for teaching the children table manners? Share them, please!

5 Things to Remember While Job Hunting in November

No matter what time of year, job hunting is a daunting task that makes even the most polished professional flustered and disgruntled. The funny thing is that most of us have what it takes to nail every single interview or job offer we receive, but we somehow lose sight of the simplest, most useful tips out there.

1. Do not be seasonal

Sure, you might sign up for seasonal work because business is surely booming wherever you are. Every retailer is out there, recruiting people just like you to keep shelves stocked, perch children on their lap, or even do some heavy lifting. So, you might be thinking, “Well, it is cool that I might get a job for the holidays, but then I am just going to have to look again after the New Year.”

Well, no. Not always. Show a little ambition when you are at your interview. Have a goal with no end. When you show Human Resources and the hiring officer that you are full of potential, you also show them you are the kind of person they will want to hang onto. You know what they say, “Good help is hard to come by.” So if you deliver above and beyond their expectations for “seasonal” help, you will not be just a “temporary” add in.

2. Do not only do online applications

The convenience of online applications is great… but it also seriously cuts into face time. Very rarely have I ever been called back for something I submitted online. What gets me attention is dropping off a smashing resume or inquiring with management about open positions at their establishment.

Once you have them interested and expecting you to apply, you might receive a paper version or then get invited to do an online application. They will be waiting for your application if they are serious about you.

Plus, by speaking with company members throughout the ranks, you built rapport. You earn gold stars for setting yourself apart from the faceless people sending in just words. Most of all, you can show just how much getting the position would mean to you – and that earnestness is what employees seek out. Remember, networking and connections equal success.

3. Your resume is not set in stone

I know, I know. Doing a really awesome resume takes hours and you should not have to change it. But well, not every job you apply for is going to be the same. Not every employer is cut from same cloth. So, neither should your resume.

I am a personal fitness trainer, yoga instructor, bartender, freelance writer, translator, and professional dancer. Guess how many resumes I have? Okay, I have lost count. But case in point, my yoga resume is nowhere near the same as my bartender resume.

Modify words. Break out that thesaurus. Switch up experience and credentials. And always be sure to apply unique skills that will make you value for the position in which you are applying for.

4. Use LinkedIn

Using social media to get hired? Blasphemy! Maybe in the 1900s it was, but this is the 21st century, and if you are not up to par with 90% of all recruiters out there, you will not ever get noticed. Ever.

LinkedIn does not require a lot of work. Nor does it need to become your social feed like Facebook. But it is a place to create links with professionals and entrepreneurs with similar goals. On LinkedIn, you can build references, get invitations to job offers, and also be easily found by those searching for someone who fits their needs perfectly.

5. Be thankful

There was a public speaking class I took a few years ago where one of our “tests” was to hold a formal business interview for our “dream job.” One of the tips the instructor gave us that has forever struck a chord with me was this: Be thankful. And since you are searching for a job around the holidays, there is no better time than to spread a little cheer. November is all about being thankful, after all.

Here is how it works. You get interviewed and are neck-and-neck with another candidate. After the final set of interviews, one of you decides to send a heartfelt thank you letter to HR or to whomever you spoke with throughout the course to getting hired.

The other one does nothing. Guess who looks like the better human being? That is right, the person who extended a thank you, albeit they might not have known whether they were getting that position or not. No one wants to hire an automaton. And heck, if you can write something kind, that shows a whole lot of character.

Remember, when it comes to getting hired this November, you are facing a massive amount of competition. Do not try to conform to the rest of crowd. Go the extra mile, and you might wind up clinching the job of your dreams instead of a dead-end.

Staying Stable While Grieving

It is natural to feel emotional and sad while grieving, but also remember to be cognizant of your bipolar disorder to avoid the destabilization of your mood.

This post is dedicated to my Dad, David J. Hoefs

My dad passed away on May 12th of this year (2017). He was the first person I knew who had bipolar disorder. While we knew his health was declining and he had some major health issues, we didn’t know that death was imminent. He had a heart attack and was gone immediately. So, when my sister called me that he had passed, it was shocking news. At that point, I knew I needed to do the work of grieving. After all, as a pastor, I have encouraged people to do the work of grieving, and now it was my turn to grieve.

My wife and I had just gotten to our son’s house for a visit the day before this all happened. So I had to return home right away. Flying back home gave me time to think and ponder. One of the first things on my mind was that I needed to pay close attention to any signs of depression, as I was grieving. I knew that the grief process could develop into or trigger depression, or destabilize my mood. I wanted to avoid becoming depressed if at all possible. I wasn’t sure I would know the difference between feelings of grief and depression. My experience up to this point had been dealing with the severe depression and grief from being forced to resign from the church that I was serving at the time. That was pure hell. And if I could avoid that, I wanted to do so at all costs. But I also knew that if you don’t do the work of grieving, the grief will deal with you at some point.

So on the two different plane flights home, I found myself emotional and sad, but also cognizant of the fact that because of having bipolar disorder, along with the process of grieving, that avoiding the destabilization of my mood might be a bit tricky. I promised myself that I would pay attention to the process and attempt to maneuver through the emotional sadness of losing Dad without stumbling into a depressive episode. And I was concerned that I would know the difference. I felt a little as though someone had put me on a rollercoaster ride that I didn’t choose, and I wasn’t sure how wild the ride might be.

So, I promised myself to do several things:

I promised myself to feel what I was feeling; to go through it, but “pay attention” to all of it by purposefully taking the time to be self-aware. I was not going to attempt to avoid the grief, the sad feelings, and tears. To do this, if I was feeling sad or down, I decided I would ask myself, “Is this grief? Or is this depression?”
I promised myself that if I was either confused by the feelings of grief and potentially feeling depressed, that I would not wait too long to talk to my Doctor, a therapist, or a friend. Too often I think we believe that we can handle it on our own and wait to be proactive.
I promised myself that I would attempt to keep some balance between the work of grief and continuing to live. I’ve seen people just keep themselves too busy with life to avoid the pain. But, I’ve also seen people, who following the loss of a loved one, just sit down and stop living. Neither is good. I knew I needed to keep it as balanced as possible.

It’s been approximately ten weeks since the death of my father. So far, so good. As I experience the various aspects of grieving, they seem to come in waves. I can’t explain it any other way but as waves of emotions, not always sad emotions, but a range of emotions. Some of the waves are enormous and last a while, and others are small little waves. And it is impossible to know when the waves will hit. I also find myself thinking about my dad so much more than when he was living. Also, I find myself continually thinking about the fact that he is gone. There was no time to say good bye or prepare for it — which was good for him, but I would have loved to have the time to say goodbye.

One of the things my extended family decided to do when we were picking my Dad’s burial plot at the cemetery was to go ahead and buy ten plots that would all be in the same row. To know where my burial plot would be brought about more emotions to deal with; but many others have processed these things, and I saw it as simply my turn to do so.

Up to this point, I don’t think I’m experiencing any depression. Of course, you and I both know that could change. So I’m still paying close attention to what is going on with my feelings and emotions. There have been a few times through all this that I’ve had to set aside my emotions and carry on with my job. For example, my Dad’s funeral was on a Tuesday and on the Friday of that same week I had a wedding. I had to continue with daily living (my work as a pastor). Part of the work of grieving is balancing the emotions and feelings, and at the same time continuing with life. It’s a delicate balance.

Grief is a journey. And just like the journey of mental health wellness, the journey of grief looks different for each of us.

One thing I know is that my faith as a Christian has been critical for me as I’ve gone through the loss of my father. Because I believe I will see him again, it brings comfort and hope. For me, it would be challenging without this sure comfort and hope. So, I find myself leaning on the Lord a bit more than usual.

My hope is that my transparency about this might be helpful to some of you who might be going through the same thing. It doesn’t have to be the loss of a loved one; it could be the loss of a relationship or the loss of a job. It could be grief that is following your initial diagnosis of bipolar disorder. You might love someone who is struggling with bipolar disorder, and you’re grieving.

Grief is a journey. And just like the journey of mental health wellness, the journey of grief looks different for each of us. If you are going through a season of grieving, how are you doing? What has worked for you? Are you mindful of the difference between the sadness and emotions of grief vs. depression?

If you are grieving a loss in your life, please know you are not alone. I’m right there with you.