7 Tips to Follow to End Any Argument Peacefully

An argument is never a good thing but sometimes we cannot avoid it, so it’s wise to know a few tips on how to end any argument on a good note no matter what. I cannot stand being angry at someone, and I don’t like feeling like someone is angry at me. I always try to resolve any conflict peacefully, even if the person is irritating and I don’t like them. If you have an argument, here are a few tips to follow to end it peacefully.

1. Keep those bad things to yourself
It’s so easy to say wounding words, such as ‘I hate you,’ ‘Don’t want to see you anymore,’ or ‘You’re the worst person in the world,’ but it’s so difficult to apologize. You don’t have to voice every thought that you have. Sure, you form your own views and have your own opinion, but sometimes it’s better to keep them to yourself. This is one of the most effective ways to end any argument peacefully.

2. Listen
A person who starts an argument is certainly angry. To end an argument peacefully, you will need to let them vent without interrupting them. Sure, you might want to defend yourself, but that will only make it worse. Don’t intensify the anger, and don’t try to win an argument. Take a few deep breaths, listen and then try to speak peacefully.

3. Remind yourself why you love them
If you are trying to end an argument with your partner, I suggest you to think about the things that you really love about them. Keep those things in mind when you argue with your partner, and you will be much more authentic and honest. Remind yourself why you love them, calm down and end an argument peacefully.

4. Treat others the way you want to be treated
When it comes to arguments, we all should remember this saying. In any relationship, you always mirror yourself and your emotions, actions and energies are aligned. If you want someone to be friendly and positive, you should display those qualities and treat that person with respect no matter how angry you are.

5. Use your point of view
When you let the person vent and you finally start talking, use your point of view. Try to speak calmly and respectfully and make sure you are friendly. This will make them less defensive and they will be less hostile. I always believe that every conflict can be resolved peacefully and I personally don’t like to quarrel.

6. Don’t try to win an argument
It’s a bad idea to try to win an argument. It’s not a competition and there is no winner in an argument. Keep in mind that winning is not the aim. Your aim is to end an argument peacefully, which means you should talk the problem over and come to an agreement.

7. Silence is golden
Remember that ‘Silence is golden’ and it’s one of the most effective ways to end any argument. Silence is essential when it comes to negotiation. Many of us find an awkward silence uncomfortable, but it’s important for processing feelings and thoughts as well as making a decision. It’s better to keep silence for a while than to say something that can make things even worse.

Sure, it’s not easy to end an argument, especially if the person wants to argue and is not interested in resolving a conflict. But the tips mentioned above can really help in most common arguments. How do you usually end an argument? Share your thoughts with us.

7 Reasons Why You Should Become a Teacher

Wondering why you should quit your job and become a teacher? Even though teachers don’t have high paychecks, some people choose to be teachers and love their career choice. Teachers play a crucial role in creating a stable, professional and well-educated workforce. They also play a significant role in children development.

In many parts of the world, the number of people that want to teach children dwindles. It’s not only because of low paychecks, it’s because modern children are very complicated. They’re a completely different breed of human. They stop respecting teachers and being interested in education overall. Despite this, teaching is quite a rewarding career. Here’s why you should consider becoming a teacher:

1. It’s a steady job

Reasons Why You Should Become a Teacher
When working for a small or big company, there’s always a possibility of losing your job one day. Since teachers are in demand these days, you have a lower risk of job loss. The best part of having a steady job is that you know that you will definitely get your paycheck the next month.

2. You won’t feel stuck
Once in a while, you might feel overwhelmed , but not stuck. Teaching is tons of fun. Many teachers claim that their job helps them survive hard times and smile when they want to cry. Children may cause many problems, but mostly they tend to bring joy and happiness in our lives.

Moreover, you will learn many things and precious lessons not only from the books, but from your students as well. They will inspire you to be a better teacher and improve yourself. They might even teach you to respect and love yourself.

3. Share your knowledge
Okay, you can share your knowledge in the office, but it might work against you. When you share your knowledge with kids, though, you are sure that they won’t betray you. Sharing knowledge is a fantastic feeling. Imagine having this sort of feeling each work day. Isn’t it a good reason to become a teacher?

4. You will hear ‘thank you’ more often than ever
Despite the fact that students have a tendency to hate their teachers, teaching is a respected job. Most adults are thankful to their teachers for their knowledge. Parents are grateful to teachers for their work too. Most of us trust and respect teachers because we know that we won’t reach success without their knowledge.

5. You’ll have longer vacations
One of the benefits of being a teacher is that you have longer vacations each year. Many people working in the office have no vacation at all. Moreover, some of them haven’t taken a vacation for years. Teachers have a vacation, whether they want it or not, which makes it one of the best jobs for workaholics.

6. Feel proud of yourself
Watching your students tackle difficult tasks and enter prestigious universities will make you feel proud of yourself. As a teacher, you play a huge role in your students’ success. They know what they know thanks to you. This will make you feel proud of yourself each day.

7. Influence the next generation
As I mentioned above, modern kids are different breed of human. As a teacher, you can change their worldview or perspective. You have the power to shape new opportunities, new minds and brand new ideas. Shortly, you can totally influence the next generation.

Michelle Obama once said, “… good teachers aren’t just critical for the success of our students. They are the key to the success of our economy.” The more good teachers the country has, the more prosperous future it has. Of course, these are not all of the reasons why you should become a teacher. You may have your own ones too. Do you think teaching is a great job? If you are a teacher, let us know why you love your job.

Why You Have to Stop Checking Your Email Over the Weekend

A few years ago I was on a group holiday, sailing around The Cyclades. One of our group was worried constantly about her phone battery running flat in case she missed an important email. This was even though she was on annual leave, and even with her ‘out of office’ responder on, and other people in the office who could cover.

This is the world so many of us live in now. We feel so much responsibility for our jobs that the term ‘full-time’ has become rather too literal.

While we can blame the society for some of this, there is also a degree of responsibility at our own door too. We allow the boundaries to get blurred. But you know what? We can stop it too. It just takes a little perspective shift.

The Weekend Email Checking Habit Is Harming You
Realize your problem
For many people, this comes in the form of a little existential awakening. For me, it was a sudden bout of depression. For other people I know they have developed different health problems, or even completely burned themselves out. Never allowing yourself a day off will do that.

The good news is that you do not have to wait to start feeling unwell before you take action and set yourself some boundaries. I hope that reading this will remind you to carve some ‘you time’ into your schedule, and just enjoy your free time a little.

Have you smelt the flowers lately?
Whether you spend your downtime sailing around The Cyclades or standing ankle-deep in mud on the side of a rugby pitch, your free time is your own.

When you look around you, there is always something to appreciate. Sunshine, birds singing, or in the case of the rugby pitch, that hot cup of coffee that is keeping you alive.

But whatever that thing is for you, there is something life affirming about enjoying the little things. And even more so when you can do this without intrusive thoughts of work. Honestly, that stuff can wait until Monday.

Let your brain reboot
If you need a bigger reason to rest, then how about letting your brain reboot?Studies show that we learn better when we are well rested. Our brain encodes new information while we sleep, but if we are too busy and over-tired, we retain very little new information.

When the weekend comes, put your phone on silent and just chill out. Scientists say that it is good for you.

A break boosts your mood
When we do not let ourselves stop working, eventually we get cranky. It happens to the best of us.

When Monday morning comes around, you want to start the new week feeling positive and ready to go. If you have been dipping in and out of work emails all weekend, you will not have had a proper break, so you will not feel rested and ready to go.

You know that expression, “It is for the greater good.”

Well, I think that really applies here. No matter how much you have on your plate at work. And no matter how many things will be in your inbox on Monday. Come at it when you are rested, and you will handle it better.

You might feel like you can’t afford any time off. But if you get over-tired, then your work productivity will slow down. So overall, taking the weekends off is for the greater good.

Whenever your next day off comes, remember to enjoy it!

Why Jessamyn Stanley Is Obsessed With Demi Lovato’s Fabletics Collection

Unless you have been under a rock lately, then you know that last month Demi Lovato launched her second capsule collection with Fabletics, aptly named Demi Lovato for Fabletics. A robust mix of fitness and athleisure wear, this gear, with its pops of magenta and bold blue hues, had us going gaga when it debuted.

And we aren’t the only ones who are feeling these performance pieces. Yesterday morning, yogi extraordinaire and body positivity advocate Jessamyn Stanley took to Instagram Stories to praise the fitness line.

“@ddlovato X @fabletics is the first really on trend plus size athletic wear that I’ve tried on in a hot minute,” Stanley wrote on top of a photo of her sporting the brand’s Eden Bra and Blair Legging II in bright blue ($30 and $50; fabletics.com). (For the record, you look hot Jessamyn!)

Coincidentally, the outfit Stanley is crushing on is the same one Lovato rocks in the campaign images. Translation: This line, with sizes ranging from XXS-3X, not only works for a variety of body types, it also looks ah-mazing on a myriad of shapes and sizes too.

Why Sunlight Is So Good For You

Even Hippocrates believed that the changing seasons had something to do with health—and that the key was how much available daylight there was during different times of the year.

Many centuries later, it’s clear he was onto something. As people spend more time indoors staring at computer and television screens, scientists are starting to appreciate how exposure to sunlight affects various body systems.

The most interesting support for our dependence on daylight emerged with a condition called Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD. The term was coined by Dr. Normal Rosenthal at Georgetown University to describe the so-called winter blues: the lethargy and feelings of sadness and hopelessness that come when the weather forces people to spend more time indoors and the season provides little opportunity for exposure to natural light. Some people have speculated that our modern lifestyle, which keeps people indoors under artificial light for so many hours, may be encouraging a form of SAD year-round.

Rosenthal found that while not everyone is as strongly affected by a lack of sunlight, for the people who are, light boxes that blast a few minutes of bright light in the frequency of natural sunlight each morning can help to elevate mood and re-energize them to face the day.

Studies of shift workers also support the possible role that exposure to sunlight has on mood. Messing up the normal light and dark cycles by sleeping during the day and being awake at night, under artificial light, can disrupt the body’s metabolism. That can have domino effects on nearly everything: how we break down energy from food, how strong our immune systems are and the vast array of brain chemicals and other substances that contribute to mood, weight, energy and more. People who consistently work night shifts, for example, tend to be heavier than people who don’t.

There is also intriguing evidence finding that people who work at night and don’t get exposed to daylight may produce less melatonin, a hormone that is dependent on light. Normally, people produce more melatonin toward the evening, as the body gets ready for sleep. As more light creeps in during the morning, the levels of the hormone start dropping again. In winter months when the days are shorter, melatonin levels may peak earlier or later in the day, which can lead to some of the mood changes linked to SAD. Studies in shift workers found that less melatonin may also lead to lower levels of important chemicals the body uses to repair DNA. That could potentially lead to more mutated cells that can trigger cancer.

Some studies also suggest that the light cycle may regulate the production of blood stem cells from the bone marrow. More research here is needed, but that could be important for the timing of bone marrow transplants for cancer patients, and hitting the transplant at just the right time of the light cycle may improve the chances of harvesting enough cells from donors.

Other work found that the dreaded risk of rejection of transplanted bone marrow cells might also be avoided with the help of light — in this case, ultraviolent light. Scientists treating mice who received skin transplants found that zapping the transplanted cells with UV light eliminated the group of cells most responsible for triggering rejection reactions.

The strongest support for the role of sunlight in health, however, comes from its effect on mood. Studies generally focus on the brain chemical that’s most directly linked to mood, serotonin: higher levels of serotonin correlate with better mood and feelings of satisfaction and calmness, and lower levels link to depression and anxiety. (Many antidepressants work by boosting levels of serotonin among brain neurons.)

One Australian study that measured levels of brain chemicals flowing directly out of the brain found that people had higher serotonin levels on bright sunny days than on cloudy ones. That effect remained no matter how cold or hot the weather was. Other autopsy studies found that people who died of non-psychiatric causes in the summer, when days are longer, tended to have higher levels of serotonin than people who died in the winter when sunlight is scarce

Other interesting research, this time of people using tanning beds, hints that ultraviolet light may trigger feelings of euphoria, which may explain why some people become dependent on getting regular sessions in the beds. There’s also evidence that UV light can push melanocytes—the cells that produce dark pigment in skin—to release endorphins, a feel-good chemical.

But the connection isn’t entirely clear yet. It would follow that sunlight, then, would be a good treatment for people with depression and low levels of serotonin. It works for some people with SAD, but whether the light therapy can help people with non-seasonal depression isn’t so obvious. For one, it seems that people who suffer from SAD don’t tend to show significant drops in serotonin levels, like people with depression. Studies also have not found differences in depression between sunnier and less sunny climes, either. What’s more, rates of suicide tend to climb as days get longer and decline as the days get shorter.

While there have been some rigorous studies looking at how sunlight can affect such non-seasonal depression, most show that if it can cause a lift in mood, it takes much longer than the kind that can occur with seasonal depression. While light therapy can improve mood in people with SAD in a few days, it may take several weeks for light have an effect on non-seasonal depression.

Doctors may not be prescribing sunlight therapy yet. But if you find yourself in the doldrums after hours at your desk, it might not hurt to get up and look for some light—as long as it comes from the sun, not the ceiling.

Why Do People Say Namaste at the End of Yoga Class?

You’ve taken countless yoga classes and probably mastered chair pose. But do you know the real meaning of namaste, or the reason yogis say it? In this video, we’ll explain what the word means, and why it’s coupled with a bowing action. Spoiler alert: Saying namaste is meant to make us feel more centered, present, and connected to those around us. Watch the clip above for a full rundown of the sacred word and learn how you can use it to harness positive energy in your life—whether or not you’re into yoga. Namaste!

Why You Should Always Turn on the Air Vent Above You During a Flight

The next time you go to turn off the ventilation above your seat on an airplane — whether because you’re afraid of getting sick or you’re downright chilly — you might want to reconsider.

Using that tiny vent can actually work to your advantage, as it can help you avoid contact with certain microorganisms that can get you sick during a flight.

Travel + Leisure spoke to Dr. Mark Gendreau — the medical director and vice chair of emergency medicine at Lahey Medical Center-Peabody, and an expert on the spread of infectious diseases associated with air travel — to learn how it works and how travelers can best utilize the that little air conditioner.

“Ventilation on airplanes has gotten a bad reputation, but it’s completely unfounded,” Gendreau told T+L.

Part of the reason for this, Gendreau explained, is that there wasn’t really any research on the topic until the last 15 years. But the other reason is a common misconception people often have about the way plane ventilation systems actually work.

“The flow pattern of air on an aircraft doesn’t necessarily work front to back, or back to front. It’s actually compartmentalized into various sections on the aircraft,” Gendreau said.

“As a rule of thumb, the air that you’re typically breathing and exposed to is usually anywhere from two to five rows surrounding your seat,” he added.

Here’s how the ventilation systems work.

Each of these sections (known as temperature control zones), receives air from overhead distribution nozzles that flows through the length of the cabin. The air exits the plane through a grill that’s often located beneath the windows, or where the side walls meet the floor of the plane.

This air then combines with the air outside before going through a HEPA (High Efficiency Particulate Air) to clear away dust and microbes before re-entering the plane.

The number of these ventilation zones varies depending on the aircraft, but each zone typically goes through this filtration process 15 to 30 times within the hour, with 50 percent of the air getting re-circulated and 50 percent of the air coming from outside, according to Gendreau.

The systems were primarily designed during the time when smoking was permitted on flights, Gendreau said, meaning airlines had to come up with an efficient and regular filtration system for their ventilation to clear the smoke from the cabins.

For this reason, HEPA filters can remove more than 99 percent of dust and microbes in the air, Gendreau said, though there are times where you’ll want to turn to your personal vent.

“For airborne viruses, it is incredibly important to ventilate, since ventilation becomes your main means of control besides isolating the affected person,” Gendreau said.

Airborne viruses, like tuberculosis and measles, are transmitted by tiny droplet nuclei that can hang in the air for up to five hours, Gendreau said.

While viruses associated with the common cold and upper respiratory track infections tend to be larger in size and heavier (consequently falling to the floor rather quickly), these particles linger. Which is where your vent comes in.

By using the vent and turning it on medium or low, you can create an invisible air barrier around you that creates turbulence — simultaneously blocking these particles and forcing them to the ground faster.

Planes also have low humidity, which means your mucous membrane can dry out on during a flight. When this happens, you’re more susceptible to contracting a virus, which is why keeping them away becomes all the more important.

And because those heavy common cold particles can still travel up to six feet every time you cough, sneeze, or speak, it’s equally important to wipe down and avoid touching surfaces (like that tray table you were probably resting your head on).

Career vs. Marriage: Why I Choose Career over Marriage

I never thought of this choice until my mid-20s when people started overwhelming me with questions about marriage and kids. I just live my own life, date a nice guy and I love my job. Nowadays many women have to choose between career and marriage. Even though the choice is evident, I don’t hurry to tie the knot. In our society a woman is thought to be desperate for children and family and the earlier you start your family, the better. However, to my mind, motherhood and marriage are not the only field a woman can succeed in. Here are a few reasons I choose career over marriage:

Career or Marriage
I need professional development
Admittedly, there are lots of things that make me feel happy, and my job is definitely one of them. You can call me career driven, but I want to succeed in what I’ve started. When I graduated from college I was lucky to work at a highly respected newspaper. Professional development and experience are important to a young graduate since it’s very easy to lose your professional skills without practice. I feel very enthusiastic about my job and there are heaps of ideas I want to realize. Your job gives you financial independence and confidence, which will provide you with better future.

Moreover, I’ve seen a lot of women who were disappointed and frustrated when their children have grown up and left them. All their lives they’d been existing for their kids and now these women have nothing to do with their lives. In this sense, job is an essential thing, which let you live your life to the fullest no matter what.

..and personal as well
A friend of mine welcomed a baby at the age of 18. No, it wasn’t unintended pregnancy; she just wanted to have children as soon as possible. But, honestly, I can’t understand how you can rear children when you can’t take care of yourself? Naturally, our lifestyle and views differ when we are in our 20s and 30s. A person undergoes most important changes in the life during this period. Your early and mid-20s are the time of parties, travelling, dates and education. All these things give you priceless experience and transform you into a full-fledged personality. I’m not a psychology expert but I know perfectly well that I am too young to have children and family right now. I realize that I’m not that little girl that talked too much and cried easily, but it’s not enough to quit my single life.

I need stability
Obviously, I want to provide my children with good education, good living conditions and good life. You can hardly give it to your kids in your twenties. A single life gives you the chance to save more for a house, car or whatever you want to buy.

Another thing you should be 100 hundred percent sure about when getting married is your spouse. Dating for several months is frequently not enough to learn the person. Refusing early marriage means you have enough time to find “that special guy”. You can understand what exactly you expect from your would-be husband and you are more likely to avoid mistakes. Well, I have a boyfriend and I love him very much, but I’m not sure if I want to marry him.

I want to emotionally get ready for marriage
Family life can considerably change your usual daily routine. You might not become a housewife, but marriage always means big laundry, weekend gathering with relatives and common budget. I need hardly mention that with the advent of a child your life will change forever. Naturally, you cannot be utterly ready for all this stuff. Sometimes people have quite dim concepts of family life and children upbringing, and they cherish illusions about their common future.

My parents have been married for more than 26 years and they are still in love with each other. I, however, cannot get used to the thought that I will have to spend the rest of my life with one person and have children with him. I consider marriage to be once-in-a-lifetime thing since it’s the most important choice in my life. Thus, I have a perfect right to think everything over as long as I need.

Nowadays society constantly keeps telling us that time is running out, and that there is nothing more important for a woman than creating a family. However, I notice that not wanting kids is absolutely normal these days. I stopped worrying about this. Do you know why? I realized that my biological clock will signal me clearly enough that I’m ready to be a mother and a wife. That’s why I continue dating my man, being busy with my favorite work and enjoying my life. Do you think marriage is more important than career?

Dream Collage: Why and How You Should Make It

How many times have you been thinking about creating the vision board of your dreams? Perhaps, you think it’s a childish and foolish freak, right? Wrong. A dream collage is the visualization of your goals and dreams and it works like your future photo album.

There are dreams inside everyone of us and they are more likely to happen when put on a paper. Vision board always gives you a sense of direction and deliberateness. I had always been skeptical about all kinds of symbols, but I noticed that it worked! Keep on reading to find out how you can benefit from a dream collage.

Dream Collage – Vision Board
Burst of productivity
In order to succeed and make your dreams come true you should grasp the principles applied by successful people, and apply them to your life. Making a collage is one of the best and most efficient goal setting techniques. Setting your goals on a paper will help you to focus your time and energy on these very points. It’s very effective to use a dream collage since you can design a picture of what you want.

When looking at all those clippings and drawing I’ve put on the paper, I realize clearly enough what and how I should do. Consequently, I am more productive and I achieve better results.

Inspiration
Dreams aren’t instantly accomplished and it takes time and effort to realize them. Once in a while we get disappointed at our failures and flops, especially if people around us aren’t going to support us. Believe it or not, but the collection of the pictures on the wall is a real helper in this situation since it is meant to inspire, motivate and encourage. I look at my dream collage each time I feel down and it always makes me inspired and determined.

On the other hand, your dreams should be grounded in reality. When I was a child I wanted to become a model and I was just obsessed with this idea. But I’m short and there is not much use dreaming of being a model. Instead I started working in a fashion magazine and I feel pretty good!

Entertainment
A dream collage is one of the most exciting and fascinating DIY projects! This is the area where you can use all your fantasies and creativity. When done stylish, a dream collage can serve as a unique complement to your interior. Visual boards are never pretentious in terms of materials, so you can easily use improvised stuff and anything available.

If you make up your mind to visualize your life, let’s clarify how you can do it and what you will need:

Recognize your dreams
Distinguishing my goals and dreams was the very first step I took when making my dream collage. I’d been sitting quietly for an hour thinking about my life, achievements and desires. This was a very important stage since I realized what future exactly I wanted. I just put down everything that came to my mind, even the most ridiculous and boldest dreams. Eventually, I combined some ideas, which resulted in a good set of goals.

Don’t know what to start with? Think about where you want to go, what you want to become or what you want to get. All these are right questions.

Choose materials and perform the job
Vision boards are all about drawings, magazine clippings, cut words, fabrics, paints and, of course, your photo. I am sure you can find all this stuff at home. You will need scissors, glue stick, poster board and a heap of magazines to decorate the basis.

Choose one of your best photos and put it in the center of the composition. Your photo really matters, since it incorporates the emotions you want to feel in the future. I also used stripes and polka dot insets to jazz up the composition. You should spend a considerable amount of time choosing magazine clipping and pictures; they should precisely reflect your wishes. Make sure you have included such vital categories like family, health, love, career, hobbies and friends to your visual board.

Live you dreams
When the board is ready, place it somewhere you can easily see it. I chose to put it by my bed side, so it’s the first thing I notice in the morning and the last thing I see before bed. But it’s not enough to create a dream collage and look at it from time to time. You should believe in your dreams no matter what. When looking at every detail of your board you should imagine living, accomplishing and breathing your dreams.

Many years have passed since the first time I placed the dream board beside my bed and now I can actually cross off the half of all the things. They are not dreams any more, but my happy reality.

In conclusion I will say that if you can dream it you have enough strength and will to achieve it. A dream board is not a magic wand that will do the trick, but it’s a powerful tool, which is meant to help and support you. Do not give up, always do your best and remember that the best is yet to come. Are you going to make your dream collage?