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If you want to build a relationship with someone you love, sooner or later you’ll have to deal with jealousy. Sometimes you can even be happy to see that your partner is jealous, because that means he loves you very much and he doesn’t want to share you with someone else. Perhaps you are an extremely jealous person. Then you should certainly find efficient ways to settle down and manage your emotions. Otherwise your jealousy will only damage your relationship. That’s why you need to be reasonable and wise. The tips below will help you to cope with your excessive jealousy.
1. You Should Be Reasonable
First of all, a person who is always jealous should try to clear up if there are any reasons for such behavior. Consider all the things that spark your jealousy. Maybe they are not worth being paid much attention to. You need some time to understand what the problem is. It may take you from a few hours to several days. Having discovered that your jealousy is not reasonable, you should note it down in order to recollect it next time when you can’t control your feelings.
2. Trust Your Man
Surely, you would be nervous and angry to see another girl flirting with your guy. I should say it is really an unpleasant situation. Some girls can be too active and even chase your boyfriend insistently. Though, that is not a reason for you to get upset. Try to focus on the positive side of this problem. It is great that your man attracts attention of others. Aren’t you happy to realize that you have a handsome and attractive guy? Bear in mind that just your trust will help you to build a strong and lasting relationship. It’s impossible to control your man all the time, so you should keep calm and trust him.
3. Identify Insecurities
In most cases our jealousy starts from insecurities. If you think that those women who surround your partner, either his colleagues or his friends, are more beautiful and slimmer than you, then the feeling of jealousy will drive you crazy. Whenever you feel jealous of some girl who is near your man, you should find out insecurities and concentrate on your strong points that make you a unique person. I would advise you to be more confident about yourself and never let your emotions prevail over common sense.
4. Forget the Past
When it comes to relationships with men, our previous experience may be useful for us, even if it was unpleasant and we have only bad memories about it. We should take into consideration certain mistakes that were made and not to repeat them in future. Nevertheless, when you meet with a new man and you really love him, you shouldn’t let your past influence your relationship with him. For example, if your ex has cheated on you, don’t be obsessed with thoughts that a new boyfriend can do the same. Actually, all people are different and not everyone behaves badly. The best way to be happy with your man is to let go of the past and enjoy what you have now.
5. Spend More Time Together
There are lots of couples that can’t spend much time together due to some circumstances. For instance, you may work away, study in another city or simply you have a job that requires a lot of time. Being unable to see each other often, young people start arguing. Usually jealousy is the main reason of their misunderstanding. In spite of all the work you have to do, try to spend more time with your sweetheart and appreciate every moment of your love and happiness. Undoubtedly, it will improve your relationship.
6. Ditch Social Media
Maybe it sounds a bit strange but for most people social media is the major source of jealousy. I have plenty of friends who always suspect their partners of communicating with others through social media. To avoid numerous problems and quarrels you’d better ditch social networks. By doing this you will definitely strengthen your relationship with the one you love. After all, there is a wide range of other ways to keep in touch with your friends and relatives.
7. Clarify the Situation
Stressful situations and misunderstanding are an indispensable part of every couple’s relationship. The point is how often these situations happen. If you frequently see that your guy behaves oddly and you can notice clear signs of cheating, it is necessary to discuss the problem with your partner and clear up its reasons. Possibly, there is no need for you to worry about his behavior and you will come to a common agreement. Clarifying the situation is a wonderful way to stop your jealousy.
In conclusion I would like to say that jealousy is one of those factors that can ruin your relationship, especially if this feeling is uncontrolled. Thus, you should learn to manage your emotions and feelings. Remember that you should be patient and think thoroughly before you start arguing with your man. Are you a jealous person? Do you often have quarrels with your partner because of jealousy? How do you usually cope with the problem?
Each day I see more and more chronically unproductive, unsuccessful and unhappy people and wonder why they choose to be miserable when they can take a few actions to become more successful. You will never know the true joy of happiness and success if you don’t admit that you chose the wrong path in life. There are many successful people who consider themselves unhappy and unsuccessful because they are not grateful for what they already have and they are stuck in their own negative thoughts, which prevent them from reaching their full potential. Stop living in misery, here are 8 important actions you can take today that will make you more successful.
1. Love your job
Successful people always do what they love and this actually makes them so happy and successful. Spending 8 (or more) hours at work you don’t like is one of the worst things you can do in life. When you love your job, you are more productive and eager to reach success. Never stop looking for your favorite job and you will definitely find it.
2. Cultivate your creativity
Just don’t tell me that you are not creative. I believe every person in the world is creative, but the problem is that most of us don’t explore and cultivate that creativity. If you have any creative ideas, share them with your coworkers or boss. Even if they don’t love your ideas, don’t give up. Learn how to think outside the box, cultivate your creativity daily, train your brain and be open to new ideas. It’s one of the most important actions that will make you more successful.
3. Focus on one goal at a time
Multitasking is a common thing these days. Whether it’s good or bad, but it will get you nowhere. Trying to reach a few goals or accomplishing a few tasks at once will never make you successful. You will end up feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and stressed out. When you have a huge to-do list, take a deep breath to calm down (when I see a long list of tasks I should accomplish, the first thing I usually feel is panic), prioritize your tasks and focus on accomplishing one task at a time. This will help you stay productive, avoid stress and meet all your deadlines.
4. Believe in yourself
No matter what you do, believe in yourself. If you made a mistake, admit it, learn from it and move on. Don’t dwell on your past mistakes. Believe that you will be successful, happy and healthy. Believe that you can make your dreams come true. Faith is a crucial part of life, remember it.
5. Ignore negative criticism
There’s a huge difference between negative criticism and constructive criticism. When you see that people give negative and rude criticism that has no sense at all, ignore it. We can’t avoid toxic people in the workplace, but we can ignore their rude comments. Don’t let people’s negative criticism affect your mood, productivity and success.
6. Never stop learning
The majority of people stop learning once they graduate from college or university. Highly successful people never stop learning, no matter the age. You may know a lot of useful things and have fantastic abilities, but they won’t make you more successful. Don’t be afraid to try new things and take new responsibilities. Read books and share your knowledge with others.
7. Don’t lie
If you don’t have fantastic computer skills, let your potential employer know about it. If you can’t accomplish a project, let your manager or boss know about it. Be honest and ask for help when you really need it. It’s impossible to know everything in life, so it’s okay when someone helps you. Successful people can’t do many things, they admit it and their honesty help them reach the true joy of success.
8. Take care of your health
Wealth is nothing without health. When you have numerous health issues, it’s hard to enjoy your success. You should never forget to take care of your health. Eat healthy, exercise regularly, get enough sleep and stay hydrated to be more productive and have more energy to accomplish any project and achieve any goal.
I hope these tiny pieces of advice inspired you to take some actions to improve your life and reach the true joy of success. Stay motivated and productive during the day, learn and try new things, believe in yourself and you will never feel unhappy again. What actions are you going to take to become more successful?
Wondering why you should quit your job and become a teacher? Even though teachers don’t have high paychecks, some people choose to be teachers and love their career choice. Teachers play a crucial role in creating a stable, professional and well-educated workforce. They also play a significant role in children development.
In many parts of the world, the number of people that want to teach children dwindles. It’s not only because of low paychecks, it’s because modern children are very complicated. They’re a completely different breed of human. They stop respecting teachers and being interested in education overall. Despite this, teaching is quite a rewarding career. Here’s why you should consider becoming a teacher:
1. It’s a steady job
When working for a small or big company, there’s always a possibility of losing your job one day. Since teachers are in demand these days, you have a lower risk of job loss. The best part of having a steady job is that you know that you will definitely get your paycheck the next month.
2. You won’t feel stuck
Once in a while, you might feel overwhelmed , but not stuck. Teaching is tons of fun. Many teachers claim that their job helps them survive hard times and smile when they want to cry. Children may cause many problems, but mostly they tend to bring joy and happiness in our lives.
Moreover, you will learn many things and precious lessons not only from the books, but from your students as well. They will inspire you to be a better teacher and improve yourself. They might even teach you to respect and love yourself.
3. Share your knowledge
Okay, you can share your knowledge in the office, but it might work against you. When you share your knowledge with kids, though, you are sure that they won’t betray you. Sharing knowledge is a fantastic feeling. Imagine having this sort of feeling each work day. Isn’t it a good reason to become a teacher?
4. You will hear ‘thank you’ more often than ever
Despite the fact that students have a tendency to hate their teachers, teaching is a respected job. Most adults are thankful to their teachers for their knowledge. Parents are grateful to teachers for their work too. Most of us trust and respect teachers because we know that we won’t reach success without their knowledge.
5. You’ll have longer vacations
One of the benefits of being a teacher is that you have longer vacations each year. Many people working in the office have no vacation at all. Moreover, some of them haven’t taken a vacation for years. Teachers have a vacation, whether they want it or not, which makes it one of the best jobs for workaholics.
6. Feel proud of yourself
Watching your students tackle difficult tasks and enter prestigious universities will make you feel proud of yourself. As a teacher, you play a huge role in your students’ success. They know what they know thanks to you. This will make you feel proud of yourself each day.
7. Influence the next generation
As I mentioned above, modern kids are different breed of human. As a teacher, you can change their worldview or perspective. You have the power to shape new opportunities, new minds and brand new ideas. Shortly, you can totally influence the next generation.
Michelle Obama once said, “… good teachers aren’t just critical for the success of our students. They are the key to the success of our economy.” The more good teachers the country has, the more prosperous future it has. Of course, these are not all of the reasons why you should become a teacher. You may have your own ones too. Do you think teaching is a great job? If you are a teacher, let us know why you love your job.
Men are confident about their leadership skills, and while they are just confident, women do use all their skills, becoming much better bosses than men. Like many others, I used to believe women were weak so I felt like an outsider when I got my senior management position 2 years ago.
Now I am realizing any woman from any part of the world is able to land her dream job and become a successful leader. The issue is, most women underestimate themselves. No offense, guys, but women make better leaders and here is why:
1. Women have better listening skills
Women have a tendency to listen even when they feel bored, while men are less patient and prefer to take actions instead. Every leader – be it a male or a female – must have excellent listening and communication skills. Women usually take each point of view into consideration and rarely interrupt a conversation.
2. They trust their gut instincts
Our intuition usually kicks in to warn us about bad or dangerous things. While men ignore their gut instincts (you know how confident they are), we women tend to overthink the issue and trust our intuition. Intuition is particularly crucial for people in a leadership role. Sorry, guys, but you need to learn how to trust your gut instincts first.
3. Multitasking is their talent
Hesitate over this? OK. Then, show me a man that can do a few tasks simultaneously without moaning and groaning. A woman can accomplish a project, make a dinner, do the laundry, wash the dishes, vacuum and nurse simultaneously and you will never hear about how tired she is. Men have trouble multitasking and this makes them worse leaders than women.
4. They are more patient
Girls have a weakness for the clothing and jewelry, but when it comes to a leadership, they are more patient than men. They do not jump to hasty conclusions and never make quick decisions. They will rather help their subordinates than get them fired. Men usually compete in a who-is-the-boss-here-contest and prevent other employees from boosting their career.
5. They are generous in giving praises
A male boss considers praises as useless words. A female boss, on the contrary, believes praises help to lift employees’ spirit and boost their productivity. No one wants to hear the negative feedback throughout the day. We all crave a little bit of praising at least once in a while. So, male bosses, if you want to be better leaders than women, you have to learn how to appreciate other people’s work.
Although there is always an exception in each aspect of life, lots of women have qualities that most men lack. Despite all the myths, a successful leader has to take enormous responsibility. Let’s not forget that a leader does more work than others in the company.
If you a woman, who is afraid to be a leader because of all those old beliefs that only men can be bosses, call on all your courage and climb the next mountain in your career. Is there any one of you who believes men are better leaders than women?
Being slow isn`t a sin, of course, and sometimes it`s even better than being in a rush. However, it may prevent you from doing everything you need on time and, as we all know, time is a highly important thing in life. To be fair, life is an amount of time of your existence so the more productive you are, the brighter your life is. Here are some tips procrastinators use that`ll hopefully help you manage to do more without exhausting yourself.
1. Multitasking isn’t helpful
You may think that doing a few tasks at a time will help you be more productive but it`s far from truth in reality. It can be useful only when you`re able to do one task automatically and take another one that you`re good at too. Otherwise, multitasking kills your time and energy. Furthermore, when you do everything you need at the same time, the results are much poorer.
2. Don’t think but do
Most of us spend more time thinking whether to do some task or not than getting it completed. If your task isn`t an essential thing that defines your further life way, you shouldn`t think about it more than a couple of minutes only. It`ll make your results more reasonable and efficient. “More time for doing, less time for thinking,” write it down on a piece of paper and hang it on the wall in front of you in your workplace to better the results.
3. The first is the hardest
More and more studies prove that people are the most productive in the early hours of the day. That`s why you`ll be able to do more if you start a day with coping with the most mentally challenging tasks and then go to easier ones. In the afternoon our mental activity lowers so don`t forget to plan your daily work in order to have the hardest tasks at the beginning of your to-do list.
4. Block online distractions to control your actions
If you can`t avoid checking your mail, visiting social networks or watching YouTube novelties hundred times a day, it`s a serious problem for your productivity. But you can get rid of it easily thanks to website blocking tools. It`ll save lots of your time that can be spent doing something more useful than texting someone online. Every procrastinator knows how to get rid of distractions, and you?
5. All the mess causes stress
It has been scientifically proven that chaos in the workplace interferes with your attention and can even cause chronic stress. If you want to come with a good job, try to declutter your work space. You won`t be distracted then and it`ll be easier to do all the tasks on time. Think what workplace would be more comfortable for you to work at and make all necessary changes to be a better employee.
6. Deadline shouldn’t make you blind
Lots of people suffer from procrastination because they know that the deadline isn`t coming yet and it makes them think that there`s a free minute to relax. Your deadline shouldn`t be something that interferes with your productivity so you can impose shorter ones on yourself. It`ll make you feel that there`s no time to play fool and you won`t worry to be late at the same time because you know that everything is under control.
7. Take regular breaks
Don`t forget to take regular breaks from work. It means a lot to your productivity because our brain needs 5 minutes recharge after a really hard work. This way, you`ll be ready to work hard again. But if you work non-stop, your productivity will gradually decrease till the end of a work day and you`ll be totally exhausted then.
8. The better health, the more tasks you get done
Most people have problems at work that are caused by poor health. If you don’t get enough sleep, eat fast food only and can’t handle stress, it`s not a surprise that you can`t work productively. Take care of your body because it plays one of the leading roles in your work. Mental and physical health are tightly connected so if one of them is in trouble, the system stops functioning properly.
Procrastination is the thing that doesn`t let you be a successful employee but it doesn`t mean that there`s no way out of this problem. Don`t worry, everything will be better because now you know what to do to boost productivity. There`s no need to hurry up and work non-stop. Take regular short breaks, keep everything in apple pie order in your workplace and don`t try to do everything at once. These rules will make your work easier and your results more successful. What doesn`t let you do a good job?
When you have been working in the company for many years, and you see no improvement but only complications, it means you need to learn how to set better boundaries in your workplace. Everyone in the office has the same basic needs and wants.
However, one thing becomes crystal clear – you are not them. You have your own needs and wants, and just because your boss wants you to do that extra task does not mean you want it. Here are five ways to help you set boundaries at work:
1. No hesitation
Your personal life must be a priority. Working those extra hours after the work day is over will not make you rich unless you are working for yourself. Don be afraid to say ‘no,’ when you have your own plans, or you do not feel like doing that task. Your health is much more precious than your boss’s respect. If they do not accept your ‘no,’ it is their own business. Do your job well during the working hours and say your office goodbye once it is time to go home.
2. Never accept more work than you can handle
This one goes hand in hand with saying ‘no.’ Stop trying to impress your boss, especially if they are one of those who do not care about their employees and their salaries. Impress your boss with quality rather than quantity, and let them know that you work only withing your working hours.
3. Practice self-care at work
No kidding, relying on vending machine stuff to satisfy your hunger is one of the worst things you can do for your health. Stop skipping lunch and bring healthy meals to work. Your body needs nutrients to work properly so make sure you eat healthy food during your lunchtime.
Moreover, try to take short breaks between your tasks and avoid negative talks, including gossiping. Practice positive thinking and do a few office-friendly exercises, if possible.
4. Do not set high expectations
It is easy to trick yourself into thinking that that extra task will bring you extra money. Do not set high expectations. While hard work is often rewarded, it all depends on your boss’s conscience.
Staying at the office until 9 pm to help your coworker to accomplish a project or do that extra task will not be rewarded. Focus on your family and strive to spend more time with them rather than with your projects.
5. Leave work at the office
This means no checking email after 6 pm, no bringing projects home, and no work over the weekends. Get it? Enjoy your time away from work and do things that bring you joy. Volunteering may bring you more pleasure than doing an extra project that only will make your boss richer, not you. Spending time with your nearest and dearest is a great activity that is much better than your work.
I know, working hard is great, but do not forget that we are on this earth for a short time, and we never know what tomorrow will bring, so stop making your job a priority, and start doing things that will add meaningfulness to your life.
Our society has brainwashed us to think that multitasking is an ability to be admired and sought after in employees, parents and everyone else you can think of. I think that the more we can do at one time, the more efficient we are. However, studies actually show quite the opposite.
Multitasking is toxic for our brains because it goes against the way they are wired to work. You see, our brains can only fully focus on one thing at a time which means multitasking is not efficient at all and actually makes us produce poor quality output.
The answer instead is singletasking. Dedicating your focus to a single task may require you to retrain yourself but it will produce important benefits that are more than worth the effort.
1. Your focus will improve
Instead of jumping back and forth between tasks, you will be able to focus on the problem with persistence and apply complex thinking. Younger generations particularly will benefit from this change seeing as how they are used to watching TV while texting on their phone and playing games.
2. Your stress will decrease
Doing too many things at one time is stressful for anyone because it requires more energy to track tasks. With singletasking, you have your one task at hand and that is the only thing you are focusing on at the moment so all of your energy can go in one direction.
3. You will manage your time better
When you are used to multitasking, you tend to let more distractions in which can push back your timeline. With singletasking, you will be able to figure out the most effective ways to use your time because you will have fewer distractions.
4. You will get more done
You may be thinking there is no way you can accomplish more by doing one thing at a time than you can by juggling a multitude of balls but you would be wrong.
Trying to do too many things at once leads to mistakes which force you to stop and correct them. In the time it takes to fix the things that went wrong, you could have just done one thing at a time and got them all done in less time.
So how do you get started with singletasking? Use as few tools as you can to get the job done. By using simple methods and cutting out distractions, you can fully focus on your task and will be less likely to allow anything to cut in. Then simply do less!
I am not saying be lazy. Continue to work as hard as you always have, just work on one thing at a time. It is like the old saying: “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.” I am not condoning eating elephants.
But I am saying that the best way to tackle your to-do list is to take it one task at a time. I am sure you will find this new way of life have a profound impact on you and those around you.
Entrepreneurs are definitely not born, but who of you can become the one tomorrow? The answer is any one of you, literally. No matter your gender, age, education, and ethnicity, you have all chances of becoming a successful entrepreneur in the United States. The Presitely’s infographic shows that about 550,000 open up monthly in the U.S.
infographic proves entrepreneurship is becoming more diverse
According to the infographic, almost 60 percent of businesses are launched by men and a little bit more than 40 percent are launched by women. That means that women are becoming successful business owners at much higher rates than a decade ago.
The sad thing is that not all businesses survive their first year, so think twice before ditching your 9 to 5 and launching your own company. Meanwhile, take a look at the infographic to be more aware of the current business situation in the U.S.
Looking for ways to take care of dry skin? I’ve got some tried and tested ways that work like a charm. I have dry skin and I know how it’s difficult to take care of it. But by now, I have worked out some ways to treat my problem skin to avoid dryness, redness and discomfort. You need to take care of your skin in order to keep it perfect, right? Follow these tips and don’t forget to share yours in the comments section.
1. Keep the air in your room moist
The first rule of a healthy skin is moist air in your apartment. The great thing that will help you to moisturize air in your room is a vaporizer. It is easy to use, you need just plug it in the room and it will do the entire job. Don’t forget to clean and fill the reservoir when necessary to prevent mold from appearing. Thus you will keep air in the room moist and it will be very good for your skin and for the health of your body in general.
2. Products to care for your skin
If you use soap with the smell of fruits or flowers, beware, you may affect your dry skin without knowing it. It means that chemicals have been added to make these products to smell good. Such chemicals can dry your skin badly. So my advice is to choose natural products to care for your skin. They will moisturize your dry skin since they contain no chemicals to dry it.
3. Use oils
There is the perfect thing that can moisturize your skin very well. I’m speaking about oil. You may know that different natural oils are used in cosmetic products you are using to care for your skin. But do you know that you can use any natural oil as it is? Choose any oil you like, there is wide variety of them. The most common is the olive oil, but you may find that coconut or rose petals oil is more to your liking. Just rub the oil into dry parts of your skin and you will see the results in no time.
4. Use lotion on damp skin
Treating you dry skin with lotion whenever needed is a very good idea. But it will be way much better if you apply your favorite lotion to the damp skin. Put it on after the shower and when your skin is a bit dump and it will absorb the lotion deeper. This will make it easier for your lotion to cope with the dryness of your skin. And you won’t have to worry about discomfort that dryness brings.
5. Drink more
There is nothing that can hydrate your body better than water. “Drink more water” – that is what you hear from everyone. Everybody, from famous dieting experts to your couch in your local gym advise you to drink more water as it is very good for your body. But you need to know that it is equally good to your skin too. Do you want to see your skin shining and hydrated? So, do drink more water!
6. Add fruits and vegetables to your diet
You heard a lot about benefits your body has from fruits and vegetables. Fruits and vegetables full of vitamins and minerals, they contain antioxidants, and they are able to hydrate your skin. So, by adding fruits and vegetables to your eating plan you can keep your skin hydrated. Plus, you will get plenty of essential vitamins.
7. Reduce the temperature in your shower
You may like a hot water, but your dry skin won’t tell you ‘thank you.’ When a hot water runs over your skin, it sucks the moisture out of it, leaving you with dry, bright red skin. A lukewarm water is perfect for dry skin. I don’t also recommend using a cold water since it’s not good for your dry skin as well.
There are plenty of ways to care for your dry skin, but these are the most effective. How do you treat your dry skin?